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Old 11-23-2009, 05:14 PM
AutumnalTone AutumnalTone is offline
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Originally Posted by LovingRadiance View Post
In fact because it's a "change" even if it's a good change, it's still stressful.

You are definately not alone in that feeling.
It's akin to taking a new job or getting a new boss or meeting in-laws for the first time and whole lot of other stuff. The "anxiety of the new," so to speak. For me, it involves fervent wishing that all goes well and vague concern that something could go wrong.
When speaking of various forms of non-monogamy...it ain't poly if you're just fucking around.

While polyamory, open relationships, and swinging are all distinctly different approaches to non-monogamy, they are not mutually exlusive. Folks can, and some do, engage in more than one of them at a time--and it's all good.
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Old 11-24-2009, 05:01 AM
LuvNWonder LuvNWonder is offline
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wow. good to hear about other's feelings about "new".

Wife had her first sexual experience alone with her boyfriend a couple of weeks ago. They had dated several times before that. Now, I'm the poly one by nature but I had butterflies...had to sit and analyze for two days. much better now.

she had to be totally freaking, I know she was, because this was the first time *ever* in her life she had made love alone with another man other than me. all other times in the past few years have been with either me or the wife of the other guy present.

This was also the first time with someone she really cares about other than me.

So many firsts. So many challenges. Such a wonderful result.
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Old 12-08-2010, 12:57 AM
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My SO is out on his first ever date tonite too and I too am a bit uncomfortable. I'm not upset, just a bit anxious. I expected this would happen at times but for some reason I didn't expect it tonight. And I cannot go anywhere either due to children being here. I am happy for him, he really likes talking to this woman and was pretty excited about getting to spend some time in person with her. It's always nice to see a smiling face and know it is because of being open enough to let the person you love be themselves. But I guess human nature is what it is and emotions don't always have to make sence. Gonna go shower and do a little spa night for myself to occupy myself.
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