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Old 11-27-2010, 06:54 PM
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It was pretty good, definitely had some good lines. I think next girl night in will have to involve some other girls and some wine and giggles!
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Old 11-27-2010, 07:21 PM
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"The easy A" was an awesome movie. Maybe we could make a night out of that for our women friends. Ha! I wonder what our friends would think of it actually. We would have to leave time for discussion.

Glad you had a good night Derby. Can't wait to see you later today. Although I'm a bit disappointed because I have a cold sore. Boo hoo, no kissing...
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Old 11-27-2010, 08:21 PM
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ya know sometimes folks don't know how to phrase things and 'asking for permission" is really just a way of telling you... at least that's my experience
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Old 11-28-2010, 01:02 AM
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Glad you had a good night Derby. Can't wait to see you later today. Although I'm a bit disappointed because I have a cold sore. Boo hoo, no kissing...
I can still kiss you, just not on the lips
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Old 11-28-2010, 02:18 AM
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I can still kiss you, just not on the lips
Nicely played Are you sure you're not a guy
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Old 11-28-2010, 02:30 AM
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Yep I'm pretty sure I'm not a guy, I haven't been mistaken for a boy since I was 9.
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Old 11-28-2010, 02:38 AM
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Yep I'm pretty sure I'm not a guy, I haven't been mistaken for a boy since I was 9.
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Old 12-01-2010, 05:50 PM
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I've been doing a lot of reading on the forums for the past couple of days and it struck me how far I've come in my journey. There are things that I see people struggling with that not long ago I was struggling with too. So what have I learnt over the past 8 months?

1. Being happy with what you have is far easier than wishing for a life you think would be perfect.
2. There is enough love to go around.
3. You don't have to be best friends with a metamour but being friendly with them is a definite bonus.
4. If you don't talk about it don't expect your partner(s) to know what's going on in your head.
5. If you're coming from a place of caring and respect your instincts are probably right.
6. Jealousy has a reason behind it, it takes self work to get to that reason, but understanding yourself is so worth it.
7. Communicating things in more than one way has it's benefits.
8. My partner's other relationships and what they do in the context of those relationships have nothing to do with my relationships with my partners.
9. All the turmoil was temporary. Knowing that now I expect all future turmoil to be temporary as well.

To all of you who are in the midst of the struggle there is a light at the end of the tunnel. Once you've embarked on this journey your life isn't likely to return to the normal you used to have but you will find a new normal with peace and joy and love.

-Derby (who needs a new blog since "nervous" just doesn't seem fitting anymore)
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Old 12-01-2010, 06:07 PM
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I've been doing a lot of reading on the forums for the past couple of days and it struck me how far I've come in my journey. There are things that I see people struggling with that not long ago I was struggling with too. So what have I learnt over the past 8 months?

1. Being happy with what you have is far easier than wishing for a life you think would be perfect.
2. There is enough love to go around.
3. You don't have to be best friends with a metamour but being friendly with them is a definite bonus.
4. If you don't talk about it don't expect your partner(s) to know what's going on in your head.
5. If you're coming from a place of caring and respect your instincts are probably right.
6. Jealousy has a reason behind it, it takes self work to get to that reason, but understanding yourself is so worth it.
7. Communicating things in more than one way has it's benefits.
8. My partner's other relationships and what they do in the context of those relationships have nothing to do with my relationships with my partners.
9. All the turmoil was temporary. Knowing that now I expect all future turmoil to be temporary as well.

To all of you who are in the midst of the struggle there is a light at the end of the tunnel. Once you've embarked on this journey your life isn't likely to return to the normal you used to have but you will find a new normal with peach and joy and love.

-Derby (who needs a new blog since "nervous" just doesn't seem fitting anymore)

WOW thanks for this post!
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Old 12-01-2010, 06:09 PM
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I've been doing a lot of reading on the forums for the past couple of days and it struck me how far I've come in my journey. There are things that I see people struggling with that not long ago I was struggling with too. So what have I learnt over the past 8 months?

1. Being happy with what you have is far easier than wishing for a life you think would be perfect.
2. There is enough love to go around.
3. You don't have to be best friends with a metamour but being friendly with them is a definite bonus.
4. If you don't talk about it don't expect your partner(s) to know what's going on in your head.
5. If you're coming from a place of caring and respect your instincts are probably right.
6. Jealousy has a reason behind it, it takes self work to get to that reason, but understanding yourself is so worth it.
7. Communicating things in more than one way has it's benefits.
8. My partner's other relationships and what they do in the context of those relationships have nothing to do with my relationships with my partners.
9. All the turmoil was temporary. Knowing that now I expect all future turmoil to be temporary as well.

To all of you who are in the midst of the struggle there is a light at the end of the tunnel. Once you've embarked on this journey your life isn't likely to return to the normal you used to have but you will find a new normal with peach and joy and love.

-Derby (who needs a new blog since "nervous" just doesn't seem fitting anymore)
Great summary of some key points in poly relationships
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