coming out time?

[vandalin]

She didn't approve, yet she didn't fuss about it after that.

This and this thread reminds me of my favorite quote from a very fun movie, Too Wong Foo, Thanks For Everything, Julie Newmar, "Approval is neither desired nor required, but I will take your accpetance"

I think this is a very important thought, or affirmation if you will, for anyone who is going to say or do something that they feel is "right" and their family or friends may feel is "wrong". It also usually holds up unless there is said legal action and etc.

[berserker239]

Originally Posted by happybird

Thanks so much for the advice, you guys. I think I will say just that.

Also, I have read some of those custody stories. It seems to be that in most of those cases, someone (usually a grandparent) raised a huge fuss, causing the legal action. I am not sure what level of support (or non) we will recieve, but I really can't see any of our parents going to those lengths.

I will keep you updated. My mom DOES know that I began to have feelings for my then just-best-friend. I'm thinking this might not be THAT much of a shock.

Good luck with the newsflash on your mom, make sure to tell us how it goes!

If it goes bad, i think i can safely say, were all here for you.

[happybird]

Well, I did it!
Had the talk with my mom yesterday. It came out suprisingly easily, once the conversation started. And no, she was not surprised. She mentioned that several of my friends have been pondering what was going on. (We had suspected this, but have had few people actully talk to us about it). The lack of shock was a good thing. The only real negative response was worry. Worry for me and the husband, for my feelings, my future. I think it's normal for a parent to feel like, when being told the situation, that maybe I am being manipulated in some way. Or being niave. I told her that the only way I can think to prove otherwise is to keep on living it and she will eventually understand.

She told me that there's nothing I could ever tell her about me that would make her angry or not want to be around me. It felt great. I hated hiding something from her, especially something I consider to be a really good thing. We did speak again briefly this morning and has some more questions. She wants to say some things, and I am sure I won't like to hear all of them. But I think the important thing is that I have her in my life no matter what. I hope that time will take her worry away and make her feel comfortable. I don't want to burden my parents or friends with something they do not understand, but then again, it's my one life to live the way I choose.

Despite the semi-awkwardness of it, I feel a LOT better. I am almost strong enough to make it my facebook status. Somehow, telling someone the truth makes it seem more real and definitely less ...shady. It's a good feeling. I hope if anyone is thinking of doing it too, this can be some encouragement!

[River]

Congratulations, Happybird! Very good news!

[MonoVCPHG]

This is great!

[foxflame88]

Glad to hear it went well.

[XYZ123]

Congratulations. I'm happy for you!

[Quath]

Congrats! I am glad it went that well!

[redpepper]

you give me hope. thank you.

I just hope that the fact that I have two men goes over as well.... somehow a man and two women is more normal to others (xyz123, you were right)

[XYZ123]

Originally Posted by redpepper

I just hope that the fact that I have two men goes over as well.... somehow a man and two women is more normal to others (xyz123, you were right)

Oddly, it's more normal to me too. Yet I couldn't even begin to tell you why. I believe it's just something ingrained as I don't have a specific reason for it. Damned societal "norms" and conditioning.
Good luck RP.