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Old 11-09-2010, 07:36 PM
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Hey there lady!

It sounds like things are going well on your end.
I'm SO glad to hear that you and Mr. Unicorn are some of the happiest people you know! That's AWESOME!!!

Maca is still staying in town.
But, it seems to be helping. He's reading through a book I gave him called "The Seven Levels of Intimacy" and we've been talking about it in the evenings on instant messenger.

He came out this weekend for my sisters bday party. We had a nice, relaxing weekend with the whole family.

I miss him. I hope that he figures lots of things out while he's gone though.
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Old 11-16-2010, 08:47 AM
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So Passport joined the forums! Hi Passport! She's a very sweet, sweet woman and I hope she ends up liking this place. I'm still learning so much about her, and every time I hear from her I end up smiling like an idiot. Things have been pretty great.

There's a guy at work whom I'm making friends with, and he's really gotten my brain going about a number of things... resulting in the lofty goal of resurrecting my business that I put on hold when my mother was in the hospital. My brain is going a thousand miles a minute trying to remember all the old information about it and processing all of the new ideas I've had in the meantime.

There's a lot of movement in my life in general... I feel more creative, happy, motivated, and responsible. Even my husband seems to be touched by this and has been actively pursuing creative endeavors and looking into making some job changes. There's so much joy in my existence right now, and I finally feel like myself again.

Perhaps it's just the NRE. I've seen the local guy for a few dates and I think he's just my speed.
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Old 11-16-2010, 05:16 PM
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Awwww you make me blush. I'm very happy to be here

I am looking forward to making this my online "home" and getting to know other people better
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Old 11-23-2010, 07:14 AM
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Just finished a blissful four day weekend at home with Mr. Unicorn for his birthday. It's been very loving and the perfect mini vacation that we needed from our brutal commuting schedule. There were many sins of decadence committed, including a bacon and vodka breakfast today!

Hung out with local guy and his wife late on Sunday. It's the first time I've really spent any time around her, and I had a really fun time. She and I got into a conversation about what a damn small world it is here in this state... before I met them, I've heard about them from several different sources over the course of several years, including the fact that my friend Pearl used to work for her. I told her I had a moment of "oh THOSE people!" Also, Mr. Unicorn used to play in their house as a child. It gave us a laugh to have our topic illustrated so cleanly.

I find I have a difficult time remembering that I can contact people when I'm at home. When I'm at home, I'm at HOME, and I don't really want to do anything except for BEING AT HOME. I am always happy to hear from people when they get in touch with me, but the idea that I can initiate that is... just not something I ever seem to remember.

Just something for me to keep in mind. There are all sorts of opportunities I'm missing to talk to Passport because I forget I can...
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Old 11-24-2010, 05:28 PM
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If you don't mind my asking, FormerUnicorn, how are you meeting all these fun and interesting people? I'm trying to expand my social circle myself - I really enjoy having friends and a social life, but I don't have a lot of experience at it. I'm finding the expansion phase to be quite challenging lol.
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Old 11-25-2010, 07:01 AM
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If you don't mind my asking, FormerUnicorn, how are you meeting all these fun and interesting people?
The bottom line is that I'm willing to take a chance on the fact that I might not get along with someone.

I've been a member of OkCupid for six or seven years now, and I've used it primarily as a way to meet new people. The story was that I was living in England and I knew I was going to be moving to Alaska. I didn't want to arrive friendless, so I networked aggressively... and it worked so well that I had someone to go hiking with the night I got off the plane. And a standing thursday night scrabble game. And three offers for dinner and a movie.

I've probably met close to eighty people off of OKC in person. Some of them have been pretty scary (My senses are a bit better now) and some of them have just been plain weird. Some of them are obviously just looking for sex (not my cuppa tea). Most are nice enough people that I see a time or two and then drift away from.

That's not always the case. Some of the people I have met have been my friends for years. I even met my husband off of there, and we've been happily married for almost three years and together for almost six.

It can also be a gateway to other dynamics. A person I thought was my friend decided to terminate a friendship after he read my profile. I knew of Passport beforehand but we didn't really talk until I messaged her on OKC (boy am I ever glad I did!). I'm not sure I ever would have spoken to Local Guy had I been aware that I knew of him, but that connection took me completely by surprised, and it's one of the things that makes me smile every day these days.

Don't be afraid to strike up conversations with people. Ask coworkers to lunch. Neighbors, people at the library... just start talking to people, and be prepared to give your number out if you find someone who you'd like to talk to again! Good candidates are people who you strike up easy conversations with, or people you find yourself lingering for.

Don't be afraid to put yourself out there, cause the worst that could happen is that they could say no, or that they don't call! I'm still kicking myself in the pants for not doing this for: The awesome lady with the toddler in the jewelry section of the library in 2005, the sweet clerk in the jean jacket at bath and body works in 2006, and the artist at the art store in 2009, and the woman who helped me out at lowes when my car broke down last winter.

It can be challenging and it can be a lot of work, but it's always worth it in the end.

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Old 11-25-2010, 06:32 PM
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I knew of Passport beforehand but we didn't really talk until I messaged her on OKC (boy am I ever glad I did!).
Me too!!

You owe me a phone call pretty lady!! What'cha up to around 9.30pm your time tonight? I'm going to be waiting for my son at his piano lessons so I have about 1/2 hour to chatter
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Old 11-25-2010, 08:56 PM
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Well well! Looks like I'll be making a phonecall!!!
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Old 11-27-2010, 06:52 PM
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Yay! Thanks for the phone call
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Old 06-17-2012, 11:21 AM
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So a lot of time has passed since I was last on the forums.

I read through this blog and smile at the happy girl I was when I last wrote. I am still happy, but the whirlwind of new joy has worn off.

Basic updates:

We moved back into Anchorage, and I'm back in school. It's a good change.

I haven't spoken with Passport in a long time. I think of her every time I pick up my phone, which is a lot these days. I've been meaning to send a text, but there's a lot going on in her life right now, but since she more than a thousand miles away I am not sure what I can do except send a tiny but heartfelt piece of love.

I totally sucked when it came to Local Guy. I failed him very badly and it was not his fault. I hurt whenever I think about it, but resolve to communicate better with others in the future.

Mr. Unicorn and I finally came to terms with my feelings for Griffin, and I got his blessing to be happy in whatever way I wanted. This was a boon for Mr. Unicorn and I because our communication is way better and I feel I can trust him to support me in my decisions and in our life together.

Griffin and I, well, we had some conversations that we had been avoiding for YEARS. There were a lot of tears on my end, and some soul-searching on his end, and when everything was said and done things ended up pretty much where they always have been, except that we see each other slightly more than we used to, I kiss him whenever I want, and we enjoy the occasional bout of deliciously guilt-free sex. He's talking about moving out of state in a year or so, and I'm both proud of him and secretly devastated.

I am also completely obsessed with a reserved fellow who I'll call the Poet, who is a member of a weekly gaming group that meets at our house and who is most likely completely unattainable. But a girl can always have hope. Whatever the case, all I've wanted is to do is to see how much I can make him laugh. When we first met it was such a rare and splendid thing to hear that I was always amazed by how much it moved me to see him so relaxed. He seems a man who needs more laughter in his life.

His type has been making me fall over myself since I can remember. He's solemn and literate and extremely private and I am making my slow way to befriending him. He's like a half-feral cat when he arrives at our house, coiled and wary. He wolfs down my cooking as if he hadn't eaten since he was over the week before, the group games, and by the time he leaves it is with an easy smile. And I've finally scheduled time to hang out with him alone.

I live a very good life, full of love and fun.
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