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Old 11-20-2010, 05:40 AM
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Question potential mate into cuckold

hi. i may be soon having a new lover. he is into cuckold. i hadn't heard the term before until now. i'm surprised bcz i'm over 40!

i hv engaged in this with my first husband, bringing a man home that i had a good rapport with. we didn't discuss why he "allowed" it. basically, i wanted to try out new cock. i haven't even really thought about this part of my past bcz it was about 8 years ago.

does anyone have any advice or experience with this?

also, the person that is interested in this, i find myself very attracted to. and, i'm not attracted to many men in a sexual way. but this guy, well, i see his pic & it takes my breath away.

i've been in a poly relationsip w/ my friends husband for 6 months, and this really turns on my potential new guy. he also, has encouraged me to persue a relationship with a man that is 12 years younger than me. he likes it if the guy is young & studly & dominant. all of this is a turn on for me. i feel like, wow, this is very cool & he tells me all of these beautiful things about how rare & beautiful i am. i haven't had sex with him yet, i told him i want to connect with him spiritually first (i'm atheist, but still) and emotionally too.

thanks for reading. glad i have here to discuss. mb i should check out a cuckold site....i dont' even know how to pronounce it properly.
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Old 11-20-2010, 01:26 PM
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My husband is totally into this. My BF was not. However, it was enough for my husband to be with me directly after being with my BF.

My husband, has fantasies of hiding in the closet and watching. Being bound and made to watch. Of course he is totally into catching me with a female, however I am not bi. He is also into catching or watching with a male.

Only one time did I mind this situation, and it was after a really intimate deep time with my BF. I felt his exictment over "knowing", I had been with my other lessened the deep intimacy with my BF. I felt like surrounded with this loving huge deeper connect like this blanket I wanted to savor. My husband turned it into fast deep passion, and it didn't bode well for me. I did resent the cuckholding on that one instance.

I have no clue if it helps, just my experience.

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Old 11-20-2010, 02:25 PM
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I know a bit about this fetish. Not that I've done it. Setting up a happy 3way takes work and can be a rare thing. But I have dated men who had this fantasy, and I've looked at the porn (which I suggest you do).

As I see it, the long term partner gets off on the "humiliation" of seeing a younger studly guy fuck you. (There is also a large niche of cuckolding where the newer lover is black, where the original couple are both white. This seems racist to me, but I guess it adds to the pleasurable humiliation for some white men.)

He might just watch, or he might want to guide the other guy's cock into you, while you both verbally abuse him, mock his penis size, etc. He might fantasize about eating the other guy's semen out of your pussy (good in porn, but definitely NOT safe sex).

Personally I think it's kinda gay~ not that there's anything wrong with that! The cuck gets to see another guy's cock at work. He might get more involved and help you to give oral to the guy, etc., etc. But he might just want to see your face suffused with pleasure, watch you writhe around, from a voyeuristic distance.
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Old 11-20-2010, 05:58 PM
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I'm not into the whole being tied up and made to watch thing, but I DO like to stay in the closet while my wife is having sex with her boyfriend. I don't know WHY, but it makes me insanly hot. The last time my wife and her BF were together, I was there...we had a good 3-sum going on.....I finished, and got up and asked if anyone wanted anything form Subway. They placed their orders, and off I went. I told them I would ba about 45 minutes to an hour. My wife missed that one, because she got confused as Subway was only like a block or so away. LOL Anyway, I DID get some subway sandwitches, but mainly I sat in the car waiting......Then, about an hour later, I went back to her BF's place...I walked in right after they finished what looked to be the hottest sex she had had in years! LOL I almost came right there.

I think that for me, it's the fact that she's so turned on that gets me hot. I LOVE the feel of a dripping wet pussy. I LOVE having sex with her right after she fucks her BF. Her BF is slightly larger than me, and therefore, she is always a little looser afterwards with him. She used to complain that when we had sex, after her having sex with her BF, that she had a hard time feeling me due to all the moisture and her being so much looser. She said she felt less of a connection with me for our sex. I told her to look at my face while we were having sex, and see my pleasure. She did that a few times, and admitted that I was in extasy, and that did help to eliviate any issues she had.

So....To ME....If you can see the pleasure in your new lovers face, and you honestly want to PLEASE him, it will help. Eventually, you will possibly come to love it as well. Mainly because of the pleasure it gives HIM, but also because of the pleasure you GET from it.

I love watching my wife recieve absolute pleasure......And a different guy just does it for her sometimes. Not that she and I DON't have good sex....Just that she likes different sometimes....Just like I do. Hope this helps.
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Old 11-20-2010, 09:01 PM
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I'm glad you said you are interested in connecting first. How about meeting him first, a picture doesn't say much. Let alone finding another to play with.
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Not into this at all. Just as well really, my wife would be disgusted and that would affect things between us for sure.
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Not into this at all. .
This..
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Old 11-21-2010, 12:54 PM
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my wife would be disgusted and that would affect things between us for sure.
Have you discussed this already? If not, you MIGHT be surprised. Just sayin.
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I love watching my wife recieve absolute pleasure......And a different guy just does it for her sometimes. Not that she and I DON't have good sex....Just that she likes different sometimes....Just like I do. Hope this helps.
I think this is an important input because 3way hookups (or even detailed reports of outside hookups)are definitely NOT all about cuck fantasies. There are many of us that that hit some high plateau of compersion from seeing a loved one in a state of bliss. Because of the connection we can actually feel it !

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........ He might fantasize about eating the other guy's semen out of your pussy
Tis the holiday season and creme pies are SUCH a nice part of desert options

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Old 11-22-2010, 02:07 PM
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well, thanks! lol. creme pie options, v funny!

i've been reading these awesome replies, but had the ,kids & hv been wanting so bad to respond.

well, this is another definite good option for me & sex life.

it is still in the pre-courting stage...if it evolves, great. if not, well, boo.

pepper. thank u for the reality check. true, haven't met him. u caught that. but his pic, is like wow! so fucking cute! i can't stand it!

thanks for sharing your personal stories, i really appreciate it.
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