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Old 08-24-2009, 03:43 AM
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When nature vs nurture use to come up with homosexuality, my first response was "does it matter?" If it is nature or if it is a choice, it doesn't change the ethical nature of it. But later on, I realized it mattered to religious people. If it were nature, then God set it up. It also works well with the "natural fallacy" where natural stuff seems to be more acceptable than man made stuff.
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Old 08-24-2009, 03:52 AM
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I think being polyamorous (as in the ability to truly love more than one person in a sexually intimate manner) is a product of natural wiring.

I assume this because I know it is natural for me to love only one in this way therefore the possibility of loving more must be natural and possible as well.
I know this because I see the way Redpepper looks at her husband and me and am definite she loves us both.

However, I don't think being wired polyamorously is a requirement to live a polyamorous life however.

I think some people can choose to invest deeply in more than one Lover but does not necessarily have to be "in love" with each of them. This I have seen too.

Whether you choose it or are it...just take care of those you have in your life
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Old 08-24-2009, 05:58 AM
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Redpepper,

As a general rule, it is appropriate when quoting text found on the internet--especially lengthy quotes--to provide a link to the source material. Through a Google search, I identified the source of your quote in the opening post in this thread.:
http://poly-blog.blogspot.com/2006/0...olyamoury.html
thanks JRiverMartin, i will endevour to put a link in the future.... thanks for doing that for me.
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as a human male, he needs variety, naturally. Therefore, this is a lifestyle for me that I have chosen.
Really?
I'm not sure I agree with this statement. I think it is natural or not depending on the man, just as it is natural of not to be gay.
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Also, as a human male, he needs variety, naturally.
With all due respect I am going to flat out disagree with this statement...this is an extremely simplistic aproach which I am sure is used by many men all over the world..usually after they screw up.
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Polyamorists are like vegetarains ... in that we choose not to "cheat," lie, sneak around -- on ethical grounds, but we also choose not to be ashamed or even afraid about loving multiply. We choose to question the nearly ubiquitous assumption mantras our cultural monogamists chants to us everywhere, in movies and songs and pulpits. We even doubt the core premise of monogamism, that loving only one person at a time is superior to loving two, or three.
I love this statement.... well said!
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Old 08-24-2009, 06:06 AM
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True I guess that does make sense. In our opinions, we feel like we need variety. So that is in our nature. Other people might be different...for instance, My mother feels she is completely monogamous and that sleeping with someone else outside of her monogamous relationship would be bad news.
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I have a question...how many people who identify as poly on here also identify as vegetarians, social activists and anti capitalists?

I'm curious because my old social group of monogamous friends were neither of the above. I'm wondering if there is a trend or social stream that polyamory flows more freely through.
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Old 08-24-2009, 06:23 AM
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With all due respect I am going to flat out disagree with this statement...this is an extremely simplistic aproach which I am sure is used by many men all over the world..usually after they screw up.
I agree to disagree.. I can't say much more and I've typed literally about 20 explanations trying to be as reasonable and I can't. I feel this way and always have.
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Old 08-24-2009, 06:42 AM
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I agree to disagree.. I can't say much more and I've typed literally about 20 explanations trying to be as reasonable and I can't. I feel this way and always have.
Fair enough my friend
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