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Old 09-26-2010, 08:06 PM
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That's awesome, TL4everu2! I have one asking a lot of questions, too, but I guess I'd rather explain why we're not swingers than have assumptions.

And I like your explanation:
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We explained that we wanted to write our OWN vows to reflect the people we have become, and our lives today....as opposed to traditional vows which were written by some clergyman over a hubdred years ago, representing some couple that I have never met before.
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Old 09-29-2010, 06:11 PM
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I posted the whole story in my blog-thing, but just want to say I told my mom today. She took it pretty well!
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Old 10-10-2010, 06:35 PM
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Being in a small town Tonberry and I have to be careful, so I've been carefully testing the waters about who is going to be judgemental if and when they do find out.

So a few days ago I got a speel from a coworker about how open relationships never work out, either the couple will close off or they'll break up because the relationship wasn't working, that people can't be serious with more than one partner, and so on.

I had a little fun with her, though. I pointed out that not so long ago, people were saying the very same things about lesbian and gay couples... and she immediately got defensive about the subject, she has one sister who has been out for years and another who is in her first same-sex relationship right now. I pointed out the correlations that prejudice have on the stability of relationships, and how there were so many long term same-sex couples that people claimed were "roommates" or "best friends" for decades, then asked her to imagine how many people there might be hiding multiple partners under that cover.

I don't think she completely got it, but I at least gave her something to think about.
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Old 10-10-2010, 08:03 PM
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About a week and a half ago, I began to try to share more aspects of myself with my mother. Kinda trying to lead up to the poly part. So I shared that I have enjoyed sex with women before.

And it was pretty much what I expected. I am not to come around or call. I am a heathen and have fallen away from the path. If she can't accept this part, she'd never get the poly part.
The relationship has been strained for most of my life requiring me to keep secrets and even outright lie. I don't have to lie to anyone in my day to day life and want to not have to do it with anyone in my family. But it seems the only way to be tolerated as her daughter. So not a happy result, but I've one less strained association to deal with.
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Old 10-10-2010, 09:05 PM
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Haha. I just came out to a semi close friend of mine at work and got a different but similar reaction. She was cool with it, but instantly brought up all the gay people she knew and how ok she was with their lifestyle. To the point that I had to remind her that I wasn't gay, nor was I having a sexual relationship with my boyfriend's other girlfriend.

Part of me thought it was funny, but I didn't know how much she had assumed. Everyone involved (both my boyfriend's and boyfriend's girlfriend are all straight). Either way she was pretty cool, but it's funny how similar that went
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Old 11-18-2010, 09:07 AM
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The simple truth:
Ignorance is everywhere.


People fear what they do not understand or are taught to hate in themselves (thus: lashing out rather then face their fears), especially in Public where Mob Dynamic/Peer Pressure rules.

It always amazes me how people with so little real information will defend a topic to death, even when called on it, just because they think or been told they should.
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