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Old 11-17-2010, 02:52 AM
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All things being equal - if you're having problems, your brain is overriding the body in this situation - something's not right.

I find I can't orgasm if everything isn't right - my mental state has to be there.

I'm not male - but I would think that it's along the same lines...
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Old 11-17-2010, 03:02 AM
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All things being equal - if you're having problems, your brain is overriding the body in this situation - something's not right.

I find I can't orgasm if everything isn't right - my mental state has to be there.

I'm not male - but I would think that it's along the same lines...
I would agree to this. My last girlfriend was the same way. She couldn't orgasm if she was at all uncomfortable.
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Old 11-17-2010, 02:30 PM
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your brain controls your erection...if you're not fully there you won't get one.

You can either be
1. too excited
2. too scared
3. too weirded
4. all of the above.

I mean dude, i would be too...new girl and you're like, "holy shit...i'm going to have sex with another women...WHAT THE F***!" it happens :/ Next time, get to know her a little bit better, that's what i say
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Old 11-17-2010, 05:29 PM
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It's not like I met her that night... we met on Saturday, had coffee and talked for about 2 hours, then kissed a bit. Then we chatted later that night, and again on Sunday. Monday night, we met at 8, had dinner, drinks etc, and didn't skedaddle until 1. I don't think it's a lack of getting to know her that's the problem...

Could definitely be first-time jitters, plus the wife being in the next room and all. She's dropping by this afternoon while the wife is away, so we'll see how that works out...
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Old 11-17-2010, 06:10 PM
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Could definitely be first-time jitters, plus the wife being in the next room and all. She's dropping by this afternoon while the wife is away, so we'll see how that works out...
Yes this is more then likely what it is....Wife being physically gone may help but she will still be with you mentally.
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Old 11-17-2010, 11:13 PM
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Well crap. Today, things started out promising, and then as soon as it came time for entry, softness. Hard again later on, and then I lost it again. Still had fun, still like the lady, think she still likes me, but I'm getting the feeling it's just not workin'.
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Old 11-17-2010, 11:25 PM
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Sounds to me like your subconsious is telling you this is not right in some way.
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Old 11-17-2010, 11:28 PM
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Sounds to me like your subconsious is telling you this is not right in some way.
This could be, but HOW? Everything seems right to me, except for my ding dong not working...
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Old 11-17-2010, 11:30 PM
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I watched a friend of mine go through something similar. He couldn't get hard, couldn't stay hard, and couldn't finish if he could stay hard long enough.

It wasn't until the relationship was over that he saw what was wrong with it.

Sometimes you just can't see until you have some perspective.
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Old 11-17-2010, 11:35 PM
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If I'm honest, this is seriously bumming me out. I actually feel a little emasculated, by my own man bits.

Maybe it's just not the right woman?
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