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Old 11-17-2010, 03:33 PM
GroundedSpirit GroundedSpirit is offline
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Originally Posted by redhead28 View Post
I have honestly been trying to live in the moment with this as much as possible, but when she expressed some concern that she wasn't bonding as quickly with me, I started to worry.
I think this is something we all often overlook - or don't want to acknowledge.

You can't 'force' bonding. The more you try, the more it seems to backfire. It's like overplanning a trip/vacation. The best ones just happen !
Make some space for things TO happen. But don't try to force it. It may happen at an unforeseen time somewhere down the road. Forget about it - just try to be happy.

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Old 11-22-2010, 01:24 AM
redhead28 redhead28 is offline
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Well, sadly, it does not appear that she is ok with a V situation, and after a lot of thought, I just simply don't feel towards her what she would like me to feel. Oh well. I've gotten over heartbreak before. I suppose that, eventually, I will get over this one, too.
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