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Old 08-23-2009, 12:04 AM
XYZ123 XYZ123 is offline
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For me, polyamory has always been my nature, though I repressed it and usually ended up cheating anyway. I knew from very young I was capable of multiple loving relationships, just as I knew I was attracted physically and emotionally to other women (also long repressed). It was only through alot of pain, honesty, deconditioning, and support from my husband that I accepted and acted openly on my true feelings.

I don't like the idea of using the term to include purely sexual relationship. I know I focus on the love part and the sex is an expression of that, and only follows that love.

I think for me the only thing that has gotten rid of that fear for the future was time. The longer my husband and I have been together, the deeper our lives entwine, and the more we know eachothers hearts and minds through complete openness, the less I fear we'll ever be apart. Should I/we find a new love, it will probably be the same case.
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Old 08-23-2009, 02:11 AM
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I would imagine security is a tremendous factor....I have gone way out of my way to ensure total security to both my wife and my OSO....and still they both have doubts and insecurities......I don't know what else more to do....
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