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Old 10-29-2010, 12:57 AM
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Unhappy Stormy Attitude

I'm here again with another Thunder-related issue. I'm not exactly at my wit's end, as this is something that we've known about from just being friends, but I'm looking for some advice nonetheless.

Thunder is a very secretive person. When he first started a poly relationship with Ariel and Vegeta, he didn't want anyone else to know about it. When they started to consider poly with Company and I, their relationship was a shock to me. I'd had no idea whatsoever, not even the slightest tinge of suspicion, and they're my best friends. That kind of secretive.

He's also on occasion a very moody person. He has a tendency towards getting angry/upset with something or someone, but not saying anything about it until after he's alright again, or not at all and claiming it was just something stupid. While he's in his mood, everyone can ask what's wrong or why until they're blue in the face, he'll simply say "Nothing." or "I'm fine." and go on with his business.

Everyone is attempting clear and concise communication, as it helps us to help ourselves and make a very wholesome relationship. Thunder insists that he doesn't want to "talk about his feelings". I'm not sure how to help him get better about communicating with us. I'd like it if there was less of the "nothing" and "I'm fine"s, but I'm not sure that he can jive with that solution. I want to find a way for him to get better at it with us that we both can flow with.

Any advice is appreciated!
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