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Old 10-27-2010, 12:56 PM
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Default New Emotions with a new relationship

Please bear with me on this one..as it is long. I am very new to poly so I would love to hear any input/comments/suggestions/etc. Just kind of venting and stating how I feel since I only have a couple of friends that know about my lifestyle so farÖ

I am married to a wonderful man! We have been married a little over two years but together almost eight. He is truly my soulmate and best friend. I have always been very attracted and in to women as well which he has always been okay with. It was not until about a year ago that I decided I wanted him to join in as a threesome and I really liked it. The more I thought about it, I thought of how much I wanted a female that I could share with him not only in that way, but also emotionally.

Anyway, we met a girl and have been seeing her for about a month now. She has stayed over with us and her daughter, for about 4 nights every week and we already gave her a key to our place. I fall very easily and I have very strong feelings for her already. She says she feels the same for me, and I can really feel it when she looks me in my eyes and tells me. Her and my husband are both still building their relationship, but I can tell it is progressing in a very good way. She is very new to this as well so really it is new for all of us. I love where it is going, but also terrified!

She just moved to town about three months ago and living with her aunt until she gets on her feet. She just found out her aunt is getting a divorce and she will have to find a place to live. We have talked seriously about her and her daughter moving in with us and I am excited and hope she does, but also nervous. Is it normal to feel this way? I want to share my life with her in every way and I get so excited when I think about a future with her. My husband is gaining strong feelings for her as well. When she is not at our house, we miss her and talk about her. I almost feel like I am in highschool again as giddy as I get when I talk to her.

I have been struggling a little but I think that is normal when just beginning right? I mean..I donít think I am jealous Iím just scared. Iíve opened myself up and terrified that it will go awry. I know I am falling in love with her and it scares me to death. What if she changes her mind? What if she isnít in this 100%? We have discussed having children together at some pointÖjust kind of touching on the subjects as she is curious and scared of what others will think. For those of you that have children, do you both have a children from the same man? How does that work? What do the children call you? How do you explain to the children your relationship? I know itís early to talk about this in our relationship, but itís definitely something that may come up some day.

Sorry this post was so long, I honestly have so much more I could say but thatís for another post.
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