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Old 10-23-2010, 05:19 AM
funnigurl funnigurl is offline
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Join Date: Oct 2010
Location: West Michigan
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Default New to the term "polyamory"

I have always said to my friends that I wanted a polygamous relationship but backwards! I never understood why the guy was the one that was allowed to fall in love with more than one woman at a time, and why the woman had to accept it and stay completely monogamous to him.
I have never been able to handle a monogamous relationship no matter how hard I tried. It wasn't that I wanted to "screw" around, it was just that I would eventually have feelings for another man but still want to remain in my current relationship. It was never something I sought out, but just something that would happen..

7 years ago I was in a poly relationship, and it was the greatest feeling ever. My friends all thought I was crazy being involved with a married man and thought of me as either a home wrecker or the "mistress". I tried explaining several times that his wife was actually OK with it and encouraged it. They could never wrap their heads around the fact that a woman would want her man to be with someone else. But she did... Unfortunately, after a year she decided this wasn't the type of lifestyle she wanted to lead. To say the least, I was devastated and have not been in any type relationship since.

I know this is the type of lifestyle I want to lead. I know it is for me but I also cannot take the hurt that was caused by the last one.

I guess I am here to see that it actually can work. I am also looking for advice on how to approach the subject or how to go about finding someone that is also into this lifestyle. I live in a very small town where the word polyamory is more commonly referred to as "cheating" or "swinging", because of course there is NO WAY any couple would openly engage in a loving relationship with another...
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