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Old 10-14-2010, 04:31 PM
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Default metamour influence

Hubby is dating a lady who is wonderful for him. We'll call her C. She is also married to D. The problem is that D seems to have a problem with Hubby, but won't say so. Outwardly he claims to support the relationship. Instead, he seems to be subtly influencing C to see problems where they didn't previously exist.

Example: Hubby talked to C about the possibility of him getting involved with someone else. She was fine with the idea. Later, she talks to D about it, and the next time Hubby mentions it, it upsets her.

This has happened more than once. It doesn't seem to be getting less frequent. I don't know how to deal with the drama. We spend time with these people socially. Hubby consults me for advice when problems arise. I don't know what to tell him, other than to keep communicating with her. It just doesn't seem right that he has to put out fires he didn't start.

How do you deal with a metamour that causes second-hand drama?
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