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Old 09-28-2010, 11:41 PM
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Acts of Service 33%
Quality Time 33% (surprised me that this was tied, but it does make sense)
Touch 20%
Words of Affirmation 10%
Gifts 3%
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Old 09-29-2010, 07:53 PM
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Physical Touch: 33%
Acts of Service: 27%
Quality Time: 27%
Words of Affirmation: 7%
Receiving Gifts: 7%

I guess that explains why I'm not big on the "tell me you love me" stuff nor on what I call "buying love". I know that's a bit over the top with the buying love thing, but I mean that more with the parent/child relationship when parents buy kids whatever they want but don't necessarily spend any time with them (this is my ex-husband).
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Old 09-30-2010, 04:21 AM
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Test Results:

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17% Words of Affirmation 5
27% Quality Time

13% Receiving Gifts 4
20% Acts of Service 6
23% Physical Touch 7

I thought it would be words of affirmation THEN acts of service. Boy was I wrong! lol
*smacks self on head*

I JUST figured out why I've been so out of sorts the last three weeks!

My work schedule has been totally out of whack. Breathes works days, I've been working nights & afternoons. I'm not getting my quality time & physical touch needs met! duh!
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Old 09-30-2010, 04:33 AM
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Isn't that helpful?
I find it very helpful to know what the hell my problem is!
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Old 09-30-2010, 04:40 AM
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Most definitely!

Now that I've figured it out I'll have to figure out how to get those needs met on a more regular basis, lol until my life gets back to a semblance of normal.
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Old 09-30-2010, 01:49 PM
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*smacks self on head*

I JUST figured out why I've been so out of sorts the last three weeks!

My work schedule has been totally out of whack. Breathes works days, I've been working nights & afternoons. I'm not getting my quality time & physical touch needs met! duh!
I work days (though I do work from home now, but that only started last November, so take that as you will) and hubby works afternoons/nights. We've been doing this for 3 years now, and the two before that it was simply reversed. My results are similar to yours in needing physical touch and quality time. Our big thing is, even though he usually has to wake me up when he gets home, we always always kiss goodnight and goodbye. But it's not a simple peck running out the door, we do a huge long hug/kiss goodbye. At night it's a half awake kiss, but it makes a difference.

Days off are required to be at least 50% family time (gets our quality time in), and his evenings off we try to cuddle in bed and talk, filling both needs.

We don't have any other relationships currently and looking at this I have to wonder what we're thinking trying to venture poly, but odds are any other partners would have the same schedule as one of us right? Heh, it would be my luck that one or both of us would fall for someone who works 3rd shift.
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Old 10-02-2010, 06:23 PM
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I guess that explains why I'm not big on the "tell me you love me" stuff nor on what I call "buying love". I know that's a bit over the top with the buying love thing, but I mean that more with the parent/child relationship when parents buy kids whatever they want but don't necessarily spend any time with them (this is my ex-husband).
Now there's an interesting test for a parenting class. If the parent's love language is not gifts, why are they trying to buy their kids love through gifts.

I'm beginning to think that our love languages can change a bit, not drastically mind you, but the top 3 may be able to shift over time. I have never really been a touch person, however I have noticed that as I learn my husbands love language (which is touch), I am more affected by his touch and have begun to crave it even more. My whole attitude toward touch is also shifting.

One of my top languages is "acts of service", but I find as my kids get older and can help with more and the list of overall chores decreases, my need for "quality time" takes over. I don't know if "acts of service" has always been at the top of my list, or just since having kids and a house to take care of.
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Old 10-02-2010, 06:28 PM
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I'm beginning to think that our love languages can change a bit, not drastically mind you, but the top 3 may be able to shift over time. I have never really been a touch person, however I have noticed that as I learn my husbands love language (which is touch), I am more affected by his touch and have begun to crave it even more. My whole attitude toward touch is also shifting.
I think they can also be different with different people. I have been thinking on this and may actually blog it. Logic can defeat the predisposed requirements for love language style imo.

As you age, you don't rely on your love style or language quite so much because you can understand the other side better
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Old 10-02-2010, 06:31 PM
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SNeacail-
VERY great observation.
Love languages do impact the relationships with children.

My youngest is DEFINITELY physical touch, then quality time and then gifts. She doesn't give a DAMN about words of affirmation or acts of service.

The 10 year old is DEFINITELY quality time, then physical touch and words of affirmation followed by acts of service then gifts.

The 14 year old is DEFINITELY gifts, words of affirmation. He tends to not notice quality time, physical touch or acts of service.

The 19 year old is Acts of Service, Words of Affirmation, Quality time, gifts and then physical touch.



Talk about WORK to keep them all feeling loved!!!

(They are all different, then there is the GOdson and then the guys and Mimi-WHEW)
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Old 10-02-2010, 06:33 PM
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I think they can also be different with different people. I have been thinking on this and may actually blog it. Logic can defeat the predisposed requirements for love language style imo.

As you age, you don't rely on your love style or language quite so much because you can understand the other side better
Yes this too.

I am a good "switch" these days-but in younger years I was NOT.

I am very good at giving the 10 year old what he needs and accepting from him the way he naturally shows it.
Same with the 3 year old.
I do well with GG and Maca as far as showing them in the way they need and recieving it the way they give it (except on my bday this year).

But-those are all different.
I do NOT do well with the 14 year old.

No matter how hard I try-I just don't do well with buying love. I don't care if it's the love language or not-it's not my gift to give that type of love.

(guess I'm not that mature yet-you should fix that Ari. )
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