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The male half initiated our poly relationship. 9 17.31%
The female half initiated our poly relationship. 32 61.54%
We were both poly. 5 9.62%
We're a same-sex couple. 4 7.69%
I hate polls. 2 3.85%
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Old 09-24-2010, 08:11 AM
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Great questions tp! Difficult to make a poll for that one, but you managed to almost include everyone.

Me, started it.
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Old 09-24-2010, 09:01 AM
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I started it, as Ragabash said.
I guess when several members of the same relationship vote, it doubles it! I wonder if that makes the result less "usable", since some relationships will kinda count double (or maybe more) and some other will count once...

Oh well, on such a small sample it's hardly a scientific poll anyways

So far, huge majority of female initiators. That's interesting.
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I started it, as Ragabash said.
I guess when several members of the same relationship vote, it doubles it! I wonder if that makes the result less "usable", since some relationships will kinda count double (or maybe more) and some other will count once...

Oh well, on such a small sample it's hardly a scientific poll anyways

So far, huge majority of female initiators. That's interesting.
Yes, I already gave Indigo trouble for skewing my results!

I originally wanted to poll M-F couples, but still wanted everyone's input on who started it, so then I added same-sex, after which I realized I excluded unicorns and tribes and people coming into tribes and... *sigh*
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Old 09-24-2010, 12:42 PM
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I think if you make a new one, you should make it multiple-answer... With Rag I initiated it, but with Sean we were both poly when we met, for instance.

Now, if you're only wondering about established, opposite-sex couples who opened up their relationship (without starting that way), that means less people can vote, but you might get results that are more interesting for what you're wondering.
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Old 09-24-2010, 11:36 PM
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I put "we were both poly," although I technically started it. I brought it up, but the feelings were mutual, so I felt that was a better answer.
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Old 09-27-2010, 05:56 AM
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I'm pretty sure this poll is skewed as I'm pretty sure there are more women than men on this site right now.
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I (the female half) brought up poly to the BF about a year or maybe two years ago. He asked me a funny question: "If you came home and saw me with another girl what would you do?" I answered with "I would join in!". Two things lead me to this answer. 1) I trust the BF 100% and if he found another girl that means he loves her deeply and who am I to stop true love? 2) I'm not a jealous person. I have never felt jealous when it comes to the BF loving more people than just me.
However, the BF didn't like my answer as much as I thought he would haha. He thought I didn't love him with all my heart because I wasn't jealous. But after time and explanation he came to share my idea ^_^ (I've been poly since I was 17). The BF and I have a fantastic relationship. I feel as though it only makes sense to keep building that love. Having another person join our relationship just seems right. Now that the BF's and my relationship are sturdy and happy, it should be able to easily support another heart ^-^.
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Old 03-22-2011, 07:30 PM
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The hubby introduced the topic, but I went first... so I don't know how to answer.
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Hand raised,

I did it.

I'm the guilty party.

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I don't know, it just sort of evolved.
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