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Old 09-23-2010, 01:32 AM
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Ok, so last week L and her D went out on a date together. Their date consisted of a scavenger hunt which I designed for them. It had some fact finding parts, which they both found out more about each other. And it had some sexually charged parts, which got them both even hotter for each other than they were originally.

Anyway, at the end of the hunt, L got a nice little question. Because throughout the hunt, I put special words into some of the tasks, which were surrounded by quotation makes. These words put together, spelled out the question "Will you redo our vows on July 2nd 2011?"

Now, some of you may say "Why the word 'redo', and not 'renew'?". I chose that word for a reason. We got married Jan 16th 1991. The day the first gulf war started. When we got married, I distinctly remember the pastor using the words "forsaking all others" and other archaic type phrases. Well, obviously, we are not "forsaking all others". LOL In fact, we are LOOKING at others! and going out with others! and doing things with others! LOL We are BAD! But we're SOOOO good at being BAD! LOL

The real reason for this though, is so that we can write our OWN vows. Vows which are more reminiscent of who we are today and the relationship which we have today. Vows which will include something about us being poly, and having the ability to love others and be loved by others, in addition to our legal spouse.

L is TOTALLY into it and is now looking at dresses. We are planning on a nice beach ceremony. Being as it is fairly far off, we MAY make this into a commitment ceremony, but....that is dependent on L's D, and how all of our relationship works out over that time period. (We like to remain optimistic)

Anyway, I need help....I need ideas on how to write vows which will include something on being poly.

I love my wife. She is beautiful, and intelligent. She is the reason I am alive today. She scooped me up 20 years ago and saved me. Through the love in her heart, she has opened herself up to the idea each of us seeing other people, within our marriage, if we feel the mutual desire.

This is so difficult, and that all sux! Sooo.....I need more!
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Old 09-23-2010, 01:38 AM
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I LIKE Shakespeare....
SONNET 116
Let me not to the marriage of true minds
Admit impediments. Love is not love
Which alters when it alteration finds,
Or bends with the remover to remove:
O no! it is an ever-fixed mark
That looks on tempests and is never shaken;
It is the star to every wandering bark,
Whose worth's unknown, although his height be taken.
Love's not Time's fool, though rosy lips and cheeks
Within his bending sickle's compass come:
Love alters not with his brief hours and weeks,
But bears it out even to the edge of doom.
If this be error and upon me proved,
I never writ, nor no man ever loved.


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Old 09-23-2010, 02:01 AM
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No offense P2, butttt.......I never really understood Shakespear. :S LOL Thats almost written in spanish as far as I'm concerned. LMAO!

Please know that I respect people, such as yourslef, who CAN understand it....I just don't. :/ Sorry.
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Old 09-23-2010, 02:11 AM
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I LIKE Shakespeare....
SONNET 116
Let me not to the marriage of true minds
Admit impediments. Love is not love
Which alters when it alteration finds,
Or bends with the remover to remove:
O no! it is an ever-fixed mark
That looks on tempests and is never shaken;
It is the star to every wandering bark,
Whose worth's unknown, although his height be taken.
Love's not Time's fool, though rosy lips and cheeks
Within his bending sickle's compass come:
Love alters not with his brief hours and weeks,
But bears it out even to the edge of doom.
If this be error and upon me proved,
I never writ, nor no man ever loved.


I love the Bard. Love it.
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Old 09-23-2010, 04:52 AM
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I LIKE Shakespeare....
SONNET 116
Let me not to the marriage of true minds
Admit impediments. Love is not love
Which alters when it alteration finds,
Or bends with the remover to remove:
O no! it is an ever-fixed mark
That looks on tempests and is never shaken;
It is the star to every wandering bark,
Whose worth's unknown, although his height be taken.
Love's not Time's fool, though rosy lips and cheeks
Within his bending sickle's compass come:
Love alters not with his brief hours and weeks,
But bears it out even to the edge of doom.
If this be error and upon me proved,
I never writ, nor no man ever loved.


I love the message of this! Maybe find someone who understands Shakespeare and re word it... I'm sure a bit of searching on line would bring something up.
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Old 09-23-2010, 04:18 PM
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I LIKE Shakespeare....
SONNET 116
Let me not to the marriage of true minds
Admit impediments. Love is not love
Which alters when it alteration finds,
Or bends with the remover to remove:
O no! it is an ever-fixed mark
That looks on tempests and is never shaken;
It is the star to every wandering bark,
Whose worth's unknown, although his height be taken.
Love's not Time's fool, though rosy lips and cheeks
Within his bending sickle's compass come:
Love alters not with his brief hours and weeks,
But bears it out even to the edge of doom.
If this be error and upon me proved,
I never writ, nor no man ever loved.


Okay...let me see if I can translate...and wax poetic at the same time...

I won't ever find obstacles in our true love for each other...
Our love will not change course simply because there is a change
If you should stop loving me, I will still love you
It is a constant, always, my love
There may be storms within it, but our love will endure
It will shine on when all others look at it
There is no price on it, but it is very high
It will not lessen with Time, even though youth slips away
Our love will not fade even when we both think that it may be over
If I am wrong here, I am a fool.

....Okay, not quite as poetic. BUT you get the drift. Our love rocks on through the ages....
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Old 09-23-2010, 08:51 PM
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Well I just finished my first draft I am sure I will go back and change it a bit. I am a perfectionist. I did get a sample of what T is writing and so far I am in tears!!!
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