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Old 09-23-2010, 04:28 PM
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Red face One down, two to go.

Told my dad just now. He's one of the most important people in my life.

He didn't run screaming. He didn't disown me. He's ... processing.

He didn't greet this announcement with the same sentiments as my sexuality. (Annoucing he had to go to the "can" after a few minutes of conversation.)

His main concern was for Indigo and me. He doesn't want either of us hurt, or to "lose something special to each other."

He was pretty astute and asked right away if my boyfriend was the guy I game with. Indigo and I don't have many friends outside of our relationship, and most of those are mutual friends. He's called home a few times when I've been out with Mr. A, or texted me.

He's said he doesn't want to meet "anyone else" (be they Indigo's or my SO). I told him plainly that he should think about that carefully because there may be times in our life when he will exclude himself as a consequence. He seemed to take that in. I managed not to be offended, because he hasn't yet grasped the concept that it's about love.

I am ... cautiously optimistic. It's a lot to absorb, and I truly hope he'll come back to me with questions.

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Old 09-23-2010, 05:34 PM
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I totally missed my opportunity to enact plan B:
Drop you off at his house and yell out the window "TP HAS A BOYFRIEND!!!" and peel out of there :P
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Old 09-23-2010, 05:45 PM
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I totally missed my opportunity to enact plan B:
Drop you off at his house and yell out the window "TP HAS A BOYFRIEND!!!" and peel out of there :P
I thought that was the plan with your parents?

Not to mention everyone else you can think of ...
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Old 09-23-2010, 06:31 PM
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Good for you TP...the concept of coming out is in my life now too. But from a secondaries point of view. I am processing the consequences myself.

Congrats...
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Old 09-23-2010, 06:32 PM
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Drop you off at his house and yell out the window "TP HAS A BOYFRIEND!!!" and peel out of there :P
Now that I would pay to see HAHA!
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Old 09-23-2010, 08:29 PM
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Now that I would pay to see HAHA!
Totally with you on that one!
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Old 09-23-2010, 09:01 PM
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Now that I would pay to see HAHA!
I third that sentiment lol

And Congratz on the success TP, glad it seems to be working out
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Old 09-23-2010, 10:07 PM
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We appear to have missed a business opportunity. Any takers for when he tells his parents??
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Old 10-01-2010, 05:18 AM
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Talking victory is ours!

Indigo and I had GOOD sex tonight. If you've read his blog at all, you know this is a big positive step!

I've been making much more of an effort to be physical with him, even when I don't feel like it. And surprisingly this did help me feel closer. Not every touch need be a prelude to sex. Once this false expectation was removed, the pressure I felt was greatly reduced.

Tonight, he made a huge effort to listen and communicate and ask for feedback, and I gave him this and clobbered the doubts in my head with a great big stick!

We will need to continue to work at this, but a success, especially a spur of the moment one, is a great relief.

I love you dear! I knew things would start working again!

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Old 10-01-2010, 05:33 AM
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Indigo and I had GOOD sex tonight.

Here's to lots more good sex!!
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