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Old 09-22-2010, 03:35 PM
Ariakas Ariakas is offline
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Interesting when I hear or read promiscuity, my internal definition of it relates directly to cheating.

However it isn't. Promiscuity is simply having multiple sexual partners.

there is no poly infidelity because polyamory covers it nicely. Polyamory-fidelity is like jumbo shrimp. Its almost an oxy moron because it doesn't quite fit, but does exist.
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Old 09-22-2010, 05:17 PM
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I kind of disagree... To me fidelity means being faithful to the commitment you've made not to have outside partners. It can happen is a mono relationship or a poly one. If there is commitment but no faithfulness, it's cheating. If the commitment isn't there in the first place, the relationship is open.

A relationship that is poly AND closed might sound weird but it's not that uncommon I would think.

Oh, and to me promiscuous means horny tease, but doesn't imply actual sex. But I guess I'm wrong about that? I always thought it was about the attitude, not the actual actions.
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Old 09-22-2010, 05:42 PM
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I kind of disagree... To me fidelity means being faithful to the commitment you've made not to have outside partners. It can happen is a mono relationship or a poly one. If there is commitment but no faithfulness, it's cheating. If the commitment isn't there in the first place, the relationship is open.

A relationship that is poly AND closed might sound weird but it's not that uncommon I would think.

Oh, and to me promiscuous means horny tease, but doesn't imply actual sex. But I guess I'm wrong about that? I always thought it was about the attitude, not the actual actions.
I agree. Polyfidelity would be nonsensical if infedility was not possible in poly. Infedility being a break in faithfulness to the commimtents made, has to be part of polyfidelity or any poly relationship that has clear rules of engagement for sexual or emotional attachment.
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