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Old 09-21-2010, 02:32 AM
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Originally Posted by Tonberry View Post
I would say both or either.

For me, if you can have sex outside the relationship, then the relationship isn't closed.
However, my problem with closed relationship is that I feel it tells me I'm not allowed to fall in love, which isn't under my control and therefore doesn't seem fair.

So I would say a relationship can be opened one way, the other, or both, but can only be considered closed if neither are allowed.
That sounds true to me. I will add that sex is the usual means of enforcement because it's a behavior that's easily identifiable, even though prohibitions on both is desired.
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