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Old 08-03-2009, 03:47 AM
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Ah yes, my love life is a rollercoaster and I'm still waiting to see if it will crash and burn or finally slow and settle in the station. Although all hope of "Elric" continuing as more than a friend is basically gone, but hopefully we can salvage our friendship. *crosses fingers*
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Old 08-06-2009, 05:05 AM
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He talked to me tonight... *sigh*

We are friends, although we will be going slowly so he can regain his trust in me. He forgave me for my temporary insanity and said, very clearly, he can not be in a poly relationship. I think that is what I really needed to hear, those two things, and now I know that I can be "just friends" with him. All hail compersion!
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Old 08-06-2009, 05:17 AM
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Don't view following your heart as temporary insanity LOL! Glad you are rebuilding a friendship and that he was clear with you. Vagueness is not much fun sometimes.

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Old 08-06-2009, 05:19 AM
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No no, the temporary insanity is where I didn't take his wishes and what he did say into account. But yes, I am very glad we are talking again. My heart is smiling again.
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Old 08-06-2009, 05:21 AM
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Ohh...gotcha!
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Old 08-06-2009, 07:04 AM
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He talked to me tonight... *sigh*

We are friends, although we will be going slowly so he can regain his trust in me. He forgave me for my temporary insanity and said, very clearly, he can not be in a poly relationship. I think that is what I really needed to hear, those two things, and now I know that I can be "just friends" with him. All hail compersion!
well this is good news... at least you will have a friend. That is better than having an ex-lover. Sometimes friends last longer.

Keep at it Vandalin. I went through many many men before finding Mono. I had given up, I remember I didn't even bother to wear deodorant as I thought it probably wouldn't work out and that he would be like the rest. I didn't bother with anything, whereas before I put a nice outfit on, wear some make up, lip gloss, fixed my hair, brushed my teeth, put hand cream on and made sure I smelled nice.... I remember seeing him and thinking, "oh shit, this is different,...... crap, I should of made an effort!" He loved me anyway, of course, because the right ones always do!
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Old 08-06-2009, 03:59 PM
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I remember I didn't even bother to wear deodorant
WTF?! I even plucked my nose hairs...this is bullshit
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Old 08-06-2009, 07:05 PM
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You two are awesome! I am so glad I met you and everyone else in this forum...it's nice having people of like mind to talk to and "play" with.
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Old 08-06-2009, 08:11 PM
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"play" with.
Whoooaahh there Vandalin...whoooaaahh, I'm sure you're very nice and all but I'm so mono I can barely play with myself..err...you know what I mean...stupid keyboard always putting words in my mouth..err fingers.
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Old 08-06-2009, 08:13 PM
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especially difficult for the keyboard to do when you have to hunt and peck...
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