The life and times of Andy4700...
I recently joined this board and am finding it helpful, and hopeing to stick around a while, so I might as well introduce myself a bit.
My name is Andy. I am 26 years old. I am married and have no children.
My wife and I have been married 3 years now. Together almost 7.
I am straight, but am open minded/un-offended by other orientations and situations. As long as it is not hurting anyone, I don't feel the need to judge.
My wife and I have always had a great relationship. Communicated well. Etc.
I have had the urge to explore other women for a while now. Not out of bordom or discontent with my wife, but more because, well, I can't quite describe it. Because I guess it feels so nice to meet someone new. Because I am a curious, open minded, and like to explore. Because other people in life sparkle too. Because life is short and I have never felt like careing about someone else means I have to care about my wife any less.
I dislike words like "best" "favorite" "more" "less" "better" etc. :/
We have talked about all this many times. She is not opposed to me finding someone, but isn't really interested in a triad or live-in type situation.
For me an added relationship would be mine to find and maintain, although she wants to meet anyone I become involved with, and hope she could become friends with her.
I was starting to give up on the idea my ideal situation could exist in reality until I found this board and read about the experiance of others here.
Sounds like it is hard to find a unicorn, but possible, and that some women enjoy the arrangement - something else I was beginning to seriously doubt.
I am also gaining insight into what I really want as I read more and more about Poly and take time to ponder and reflect.
I understand the swinging lifestyle to be more focused on sexual gratification then on intimate relationships as Poly is. This is something that I have come to realize makes the two clearly very different and only comparable in the sense that both take an open mind to sexuallity.
Looking back at my life I have had some close platonic relationships with women. I love women and enjoy their company. But I have never blurred the lines and let a close friendship turn physical. I think deep down this is what I crave. To take time to build the close emotional realtionship with someone, and blur that line and have fun with it, via mutual understanding. I am an honest person and am heavily against cheating, misleading and lying.... nothing is worse for a relationship.
I have never had a one night stand or anything of that nature and I really don't like the idea. The idea of sleeping with someone only once and then not even staying in touch feels awul in my heart...
I have really come to realize in the past few weeks how important the relationship and emotional part of this is compared to the sexual part.
I am quite friendly. I grew up quite lonesome. As sucky as that was, it has made me learn to never take for granted someone that wants to get to know you. It has all given me a little bit different outlook on life I think.
I figured I would post this in the blog section and possibly add to and expand on it in the even things progress past me wallowing in my fantasies and daydreams.
If anyone cares to respond to anything, feel free.
If anyone on here cares to chat, I would love to have some friends of the same mindset - orientation and situation isn't too important, but it would be cool to meet someone in a FMF V situation like I seek.