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Old 08-23-2010, 12:30 PM
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People have fantasies about their "ideal situation" but then reality hits and they can't deal with the fact that people are PEOPLE and not abstract concepts.
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Old 08-25-2010, 02:11 PM
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Yesterday I wrote to her.
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I've written to [your husband] a couple times since we all met and have had no response at all. So I thought I'd give this one last shot and contact you.

I am in the dark as to where I fit in your lives right now. I am guessing I am not welcome. This saddens me, as [your husband] and I have been good online friends, if nothing else, for quite some time now, and I miss his presence and support in my life, even if nothing more fully realized comes out of our connection.

This lack of communication has got me pretty down. I feel rather depressed about it. I wish I could get more information from one or both of you as to what is going on. I feel disrespected.

If you two are struggling with poly boundaries and just don't see adding a new lover to your "family" right now, that's fine. I just wish someone would let me know one way or the other so I can move on and heal my heart. Thank you.

Mags
Ball's in their court. I am not optimistic. It's been 2 weeks now since we met, and I am getting used to the idea it might all be over, and I've even lost a good friend, never mind a lusty sex partner.
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Old 08-25-2010, 03:43 PM
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It's just not grooovy that he hasn't responded. He should at least have sent you a short, "I received your message, thanks. I will respond if and when I feel ready. Please do what you need to do and don't worry about me; I'm ok for now."
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Old 08-25-2010, 04:23 PM
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People have fantasies about their "ideal situation" but then reality hits and they can't deal with the fact that people are PEOPLE and not abstract concepts.

Yeah. There is always a big difference between the "ideal situation" and a real live someone in your living room wearing PJs, eating fruit loops, and watching animal planet(not saying anyone on this thread wears PJs, eats fruit loops, or watches animal planet).
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Old 08-25-2010, 04:46 PM
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Yeah. There is always a big difference between the "ideal situation" and a real live someone in your living room wearing PJs, eating fruit loops, and watching animal planet(not saying anyone on this thread wears PJs, eats fruit loops, or watches animal planet).
I bet they are a few cards shy of a full deck when it comes to the "big multi-family house", too, but I'll be the first to admit that I base that entirely on assumption, conjecture, and complete and total LACK of information.

It's probably still the case, though. I'm a good guesser.
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Old 08-25-2010, 05:05 PM
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I'm sorry to hear that Magdlyn...sounds like you tried to show the wife that you would be a great partner and didn't sound like you came off threatening to her, with your meeting...I hope you do hear from him/or them soon, it's not very fair to keep you in limbo like that. Try and keep your chin up... Candi
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Old 08-25-2010, 07:14 PM
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If neither of them answers you in a reasonable amount of time, that in and of itself may be an answer. Not a good answer or one that reflects well on them, but an answer.
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Old 08-25-2010, 08:47 PM
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I bet they are a few cards shy of a full deck when it comes to the "big multi-family house", too, but I'll be the first to admit that I base that entirely on assumption, conjecture, and complete and total LACK of information.

It's probably still the case, though. I'm a good guesser.
haha, no actually, they really do own the house. 100 year old house, 3 floors. I was there. I don't blame you for wondering tho.
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Old 08-25-2010, 08:52 PM
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I'm sorry to hear that Magdlyn...sounds like you tried to show the wife that you would be a great partner and didn't sound like you came off threatening to her, with your meeting...I hope you do hear from him/or them soon, it's not very fair to keep you in limbo like that. Try and keep your chin up... Candi
Aww, thanks, Candi!

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If neither of them answers you in a reasonable amount of time, that in and of itself may be an answer. Not a good answer or one that reflects well on them, but an answer.
Yeah, I know. I havent heard back since I emailed her yesterday. Maybe I never will. Maybe in a month he'll muster the courage to email me and tell me it's never gonna happen. I'm starting to get that feeling at this point anyway.
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Old 08-25-2010, 08:52 PM
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haha, no actually, they really do own the house. 100 year old house, 3 floors. I was there. I don't blame you for wondering tho.
Well it sounds like you just didn't measure up to their quality-control system, or something like that. Maybe they should start doing more rigorous background checks.

Or better yet, just write these people off and find something better. Utopia is over-rated.
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