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Old 08-22-2010, 12:01 AM
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Smile your choice is yours

I am forcing no one...
Be yourself, choose your lifestyle...

I am just "talking" my thoughts.
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Old 08-22-2010, 12:02 AM
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I wasn't accusing you of forcing anyone -- sorry -- guess that didn't read the way I heard it in my head!
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Old 08-22-2010, 12:02 AM
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I don't know about anyone else - I am bisexual/pansexual because I like women. And men. And anywhere in between.

However, I am adaptable and changeable because I grew up in an alcoholic home and the options were adapt or suffer.
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Old 08-22-2010, 01:38 AM
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I am straight. I am poly. I love and embrace change as it is inevitable. Granted the OP does use the phrase, "almost all" which shows that he's not making it an absolute. So I suppose I get to be one of the exceptions to his statement.

I also agree with freeantigone, that men are less likely to come out as bi because it is not as "acceptable" socially as a bi female. If you look at the porn industry that really shows. Finding MF, MFF, FF, and MFM (male on female only) stuff is easy, finding MM is a little more specialized but also relatively easy. But if you look for MMF, where there is also male on male sex, it is a lot more difficult, or at least does not come up as often. Of course, this is just from my own searching/viewing experience which may not be as extensive as others.

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Phoenix762: Really? Mind, I can count on one hand the sexual partners I've been with (yeah, I'm as vanilla as they come) but...seems they want to try anal sex at least once.
And also as she(?) said, a lot of men are less likely to have anal sex with women for fear of being thought of as closeted gay. Not all men, not even most men.

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OP: Furthermore (no insult, no offense, it is just something I noticed), bisexual women are "more clever" and "more generous", and have a faster brain.
Also going to have to be an exception to this. Not insulted or offended, I just happen to be an exception.
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Old 08-22-2010, 03:33 AM
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Nope, I'm not stereotyping anyone. I'm speaking of specific people (who shall not be named, naturally ) that I have known personally in 20 years of being involved in said communities. Is this the kind of forum where I can't speak freely and need all sorts of qualifiers?

I am new here, but trust me, I am all about NOT marginalizing or oppressing ANYONE.


I was being a wise-ass. Half-serious, half-sarcastic as always. Beleeve me I know where you are coming from. I been there done that and it's nice to see I am not alone, not that is it mattered it I were but wahevet. Carry on. Kirk out/
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Old 08-22-2010, 12:59 PM
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As for bisexuality, I feel that it is socially more acceptable for women to be bisexual. A lot of men are terrified (due to social constructs) of being seen as 'gay' or a 'pansy man...
I can not tell you how many men on ok cupid who have approached me, have themselves listed as straight, but can't wait to tell me how freeking bisexual they are once we start chatting. I guess because I am listed as bi, they think I won't judge. Some men have told me that when, in the past, they have confessed to having sucked a cock to a new (straight) woman they are dating, she is turned off and does not want to continue the relationship. So sad.
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Old 08-22-2010, 01:19 PM
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I can not tell you how many men on ok cupid who have approached me, have themselves listed as straight, but can't wait to tell me how freeking bisexual they are once we start chatting. I guess because I am listed as bi, they think I won't judge. Some men have told me that when, in the past, they have confessed to having sucked a cock to a new (straight) woman they are dating, she is turned off and does not want to continue the relationship. So sad.

Are these women turned off because of the men "having sucked a cock", or because they misrepresented themselves as "straight"? I for one don't reckon too much on going through life worrying about how other people judge me, but that's just me. Perhaps that is why I am not concerned about whether or not it "looks" like I'm judging other people... because I don't think they should give a damn what I think.
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Old 08-22-2010, 02:27 PM
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Are these women turned off because of the men "having sucked a cock", or because they misrepresented themselves as "straight"?
No, iirc, it wasnt okc women, but women they met in other venues.

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I for one don't reckon too much on going through life worrying about how other people judge me, but that's just me. Perhaps that is why I am not concerned about whether or not it "looks" like I'm judging other people... because I don't think they should give a damn what I think.
haha, you're a hoot.
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Old 08-22-2010, 03:10 PM
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I think the fact that being bi is listed as a choice, as well as the assumption that bi women are better, are insulting.

Being bi isn't a choice, just like being gay or straight isn't a choice. My life would be a lot easier in a lot of ways if I was straight (not that I wish I was, but the whole "choice" thing completely invalidates the experience of being a sexual minority in a heteronormative society).

I think it's one thing to say "I prefer being with bi women" but to say that they are flat out better or smarter is pretty lame.
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Old 08-22-2010, 05:59 PM
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........... Is this the kind of forum where I can't speak freely and need all sorts of qualifiers?

I am new here, but trust me, I am all about NOT marginalizing or oppressing ANYONE.
Nope Passion,

You NEED to speak free and from the heart. That's what keeps it real.
If someone gets their panties in a bunch because of it just don't fall into the trap of feeling you have to defend yourself. Just let it roll. People who get offended by simple speech will always be offended. People who aren't never will be. It all comes out the same in the end.



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