Originally Posted by dragonflysky
I think some of it is that one of my concerns in being poly is not having the amount and type of time I'd like with our guy. I've been living on my own for about 8 years now, so I feel particularly "needy" in terms of wanting attention, affection, sex, touch, companionship, etc. I'm not sure I'd want to ever have another guy in addition to our guy. I might be a "mono" with a "poly". Who knows???? I try to be open while remaining true to myself. I just not always sure who my "self" is!
It's like green eggs and ham, you won't really know until you try it. With any LDR you're not going to get as much time together as you want, but with a local poly relationship, it generally isn't much more of a problem than any other local relationship where people have stuff going on in their lives, be it work, hobbies, etc, and people can spend time with both/all partners at once.
And don't rule out the possibility of more love coming into your life! There was a time when I was really anxious about the idea of adding anyone new, I thought I'd be settling, I was sure any other guy would turn out to be a cowboy...then I met a cute guy in an awesome poly family who rode a motorcycle, and that went really well, but I still was apprehensive about getting involved with anyone else....then I met this really cute guy at church who is awesome in totally different ways, and I don't know how it's going to work out yet, but I'm really hoping to have some kind of relationship with him- which was totally not what I was looking for at all when I started going to church! Point being that it's impossible to predict when you're going to meet someone new & fall into NRE all over again.