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Old 08-16-2010, 07:01 PM
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Originally Posted by GroundedSpirit View Post
So again, I see any debate of nature/nurture in regards to poly to be nothing more than mental gymnastics or an attempt to draw needless battle lines.

I think the usefulness of the debate has everything to do with the quality of the debators. I think it's useless to argue one way or the other as a "my experience generalizes to everyone" which is one so many of us tend to do. I do think it useful to ask questions and, importantly, seek answers to those questions about how certain people find their way here and why some are more successful than others at managing it.

To exclude nature (or nurture -for that matter) from that discussion because it doesn't match our experience or because it's too hard or because it is often mis-used/abused in discussion simply doesn't make sense to me as a practical matter of advancing our understanding.

Instead I would argue for better, more grounded discussion and discovery. Focusing on one side of the debate, doesn't actually improve understanding. Neither does ignoring the questions.
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