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Old 08-05-2010, 04:37 PM
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Ahh,..the Taboo of it all, if repressed. Now that makes sense.

No one ever told me not to, or that I shouldn`t. Hence no fascination for me.


Mystery solved, carry on !
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Old 08-09-2010, 07:33 AM
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I get that it's taboo, something to celebrate, something we were kept in the dark about as women in the past.... but I don't get the fascination of late? It just seems like more pressure to preform. Like women are somehow not as sexually apt if they aren't sticking things in there cunts to get them to squirt the furthest or at all for that matter! More competition and achievements to live up to as women... greeeeat.... fucking great
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Old 08-09-2010, 10:40 AM
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Well, guys have a different mindset than women. It's because of how WE operate. Every time we cum, we ejaculate. Now that we are aware that WOMEN can ALSO ejaculate, some of us think (erroneously) that since they CAN, they SHOULD every time just like WE do, or they didn't really cum, like WE don't cum unless we ejaculate. I mean, if there's no ejaculate, then you didn't get off, so now, because we couldn't get you off, we're less of a man....right?


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Old 08-09-2010, 02:39 PM
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I get that it's taboo, something to celebrate, something we were kept in the dark about as women in the past.... but I don't get the fascination of late? It just seems like more pressure to preform. Like women are somehow not as sexually apt if they aren't sticking things in there cunts to get them to squirt the furthest or at all for that matter! More competition and achievements to live up to as women... greeeeat.... fucking great
I think the irony is, the more pressure to perform the less likely it is to happen. And honestly, I don't believe men would ever think the woman is less sexually apt by the way. I would usually "blame" it on myself...just an fyi from the guy side

I do agree with tl4, in that it is a visual men have never had. Ironically it has been pointed out to me, and a point I forgot, ejaculation by women does not always include an orgasm.
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Old 08-09-2010, 05:05 PM
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I don't think I've ever experienced an expectation regarding it.

Nope-I'm certain I haven't.

BUT-I know for me, that there is a TOTALLY different sense of release from that, then I have with other orgasm that don't include ejaculation.

I am unable to get MYSELF to the point of ejaculation. Frustrated enough at this point that I spent the last 4 hours SERIOUSLY trying to figure out when/if I could get enough privacy in a bed to put a serious effort into figuring out how. But-that's not realistic. I can't get 5 minutes-and I've tried many many times over the years when I had hours.

I most often find that release to be..... like when you have to go to the bathroom so bad it hurts, or that last bit when a baby's shoulders break through and they slide out during delivery?

It's a sudden sense of "NOW I can relax" "NOW I know where peace is" "NOW the world is right around me".
Moments like right now-when my world is careening insanely around me, is when I need that release most.
And yet-here I am 3000 miles away from being able to get that release.

Fucking sucks.

As for expectation-which is what I was supposed to be writing in the first place, I've never had a man put that expectation upon me. I've only ever had myself feeling the urgency of needing it.
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Today (as well as the last umpteen days)... is one of those days.

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Old 08-09-2010, 07:22 PM
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I'm a guy who can't stand to waste a drop of excitement..hence why fluid bonding is so fulfilling to me; and by that I mean consuming juices. The idea of dental dams make me cringe with disappointment. I am more than satisfied with slow "milking" Redpepper although however she experiences release of fluids is perfectly fine for me...I'm not wasting any of it regardless...If she squirted she wouldn't see it happen anyways
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Old 08-10-2010, 04:00 AM
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I don't think I've ever experienced an expectation regarding it.

Nope-I'm certain I haven't.
Me neither. Back 12 yrs ago when I started cumming this way, I didnt know the possibility existed, really.

Even tho I'd read de Sade where he talks of women ejaculating lots of fluid. (Graphicly termed "spraying fuck" and other colorful phrases lol) And Id read other old porn where there was talk of women "spending," again a ref to women's copious jizz.

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BUT-I know for me, that there is a TOTALLY different sense of release from that, then I have with other orgasm that don't include ejaculation.

I am unable to get MYSELF to the point of ejaculation. Frustrated enough at this point that I spent the last 4 hours SERIOUSLY trying to figure out when/if I could get enough privacy in a bed to put a serious effort into figuring out how. But-that's not realistic. I can't get 5 minutes-and I've tried many many times over the years when I had hours.
Kids always around?

For me, it was a progression. First I exped jizzing when my ex would finger me for a very long time. I wouldnt start to jizz til after about the 7th to 9th orgasm. I'd need both clitoral and vaginal digital stimulation.

After a couple years, I'd be able to jizz after just 2 or 3 orgasms from fingering or oral sex.

Finally a few more yrs later, I'd be able to make myself cum this way, with clitoral stim alone, and on the first and subsequent orgasms.

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I most often find that release to be..... like when you have to go to the bathroom so bad it hurts, or that last bit when a baby's shoulders break through and they slide out during delivery?
Yes, in fact we have to bear down to squirt, just like one does when pushing a baby out.

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It's a sudden sense of "NOW I can relax" "NOW I know where peace is" "NOW the world is right around me".


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Moments like right now-when my world is careening insanely around me, is when I need that release most.
And yet-here I am 3000 miles away from being able to get that release.

Fucking sucks.




As for expectation-which is what I was supposed to be writing in the first place, I've never had a man put that expectation upon me. I've only ever had myself feeling the urgency of needing it.
AND
Today (as well as the last umpteen days)... is one of those days.


I hate that pent up feeling!
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Old 09-09-2010, 03:30 PM
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My g-spot orgasms are a nice 'warm up'. They feel pleasant, but I dont ever forget to breathe, because of them.
Yeah, this is what I experience. They are a nice release before or between other Os, but not earth-shattering.

Someone else mentioned "constant leaking" during sex ... It's coming from my urethra, but I do get this. I have had partners have to wipe themselves off because I was so wet that neither of us could feel anything anymore!

GAH. I should not be reading about this at work. Wonderfully uncomfortable!
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Old 09-09-2010, 03:59 PM
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GAH. I should not be reading about this at work. Wonderfully uncomfortable!
At least you don't have anything to show for your discomfort
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Old 09-09-2010, 04:04 PM
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At least you don't have anything to show for your discomfort
Other than squirming in my seat!!
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