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YES 23 69.70%
no 1 3.03%
I'm not sure...possibly? 9 27.27%
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Old 08-05-2010, 05:22 AM
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Ari's link to a thread on Anam Cara.

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Ya I disagree. With my ex, right after/during my first common-law wife, we had almost 0 interaction and there was the most insane energy between us. We were connecting on a level I had never imagined possible. This is the first 10 minutes of us meeting. It was so powerful my jealous wife dragged me from the party and made me vow never to talk to her again. Needless to say we ended up together.

That said, this relationship (when we finally got to it) was like watching a fireball explode. Our energies were far too intense to maintain anything for long. This is where anam cara comes into play. She is very much connected to me in a deep way, I would even call it my soul (as an agnostic) but it was meant to be temporary. She played her role in my life and she will be with me forever...but we will never be together again.
Awwww too bad you couldnt maintain it. I wonder why?

With my gf, we met on okc and chatted a few times... and I just "knew." I went to her place for our first date (and I ALWAYS meet in public on first dates), she had dinner for me simmering on the stove. We kissed and within 10 mins we were getting naked. We got around to dinner about 2 hours later...

And thank gods, we are still together and it just keeps getting better and better, in bed and out.
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Awwww too bad you couldnt maintain it. I wonder why?
That would be going into a lot of details I am not prepared to open up to publicly (surprising eh, considering I am an open book). The surface level one which I have told here before was the fact she is a lesbian. I happened to be the one guy she liked, she would have been a 5 to 5.5 on the kinsey scale and boy did that 3 months rock haha. It played its roll in my life and I do sometimes miss her, and I still love her.

I don't always believe soul friends are meant to stay in your life btw. Sometimes its a matter of being a game changer. She came into my life to rip me free of what was happening. I believe certain people are connected in ways, and time...she was one of those. My wife was another...

I also think the internet is a great medium to meet other people that may offer you up that kind of connection, unfortunately what happened to me, with her, is unlikely to happen until there is a meeting. You just never know until there is physical contact and your energies merge
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Thanks for sharing, Ari. And go you for bedding a lesbian. Youre so irresistable! lol
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Thanks for sharing, Ari. And go you for bedding a lesbian. Youre so irresistable! lol
Smart ass haha
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Old 08-06-2010, 02:47 PM
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Hey, people keep calling me that this week. I dont know why! *innocent*
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Being a "smart ass" is better than being a "dumb ass" any day of the week!
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Being a "smart ass" is better than being a "dumb ass" any day of the week!
I don't know, I would be concerned if my ass had any iq at all...let alone being smart
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I believe it's possible to have more than one soul mate, and to love both (or more) of them at the same time. It's never happened to me, but I've heard other people who've said it's happened to them, and I have no reason to doubt them.

I, too, disagree that soul mates are forged by shared hardship. That certainly does create a bond, no doubt about it, but the whole idea behind "soul mates" is that you meet them and it feels like you've known each other since the dawn of time. That's certainly how it was with my husband. When we met, it was like "Oh, hi again! Haven't seen you in a while."

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I don't always believe soul friends are meant to stay in your life btw. Sometimes its a matter of being a game changer. She came into my life to rip me free of what was happening. I believe certain people are connected in ways, and time...she was one of those. My wife was another...
I believe that everyone comes into your life for a reason. I certainly don't mean that everyone is a soul mate, of course. But at different points in your life, you have certain things you need to learn, and people come into your life to teach you those lessons. You'll be very close to some, indifferent to most, and hate the guts of a few. But you need each of them to be in your life in order for you to reach the next stage of your journey.
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Default logic...

Now, I know the whole soul mates thing isn't a logical contruct per se. But, I think about this very rationally. There are 6.8 billion people on the planet (give or take a few 100,000). If there were one and only one soul mate for any one individual, the real odds of finding that person are astronomical - yeah, about 1 in 6.8 billion. It's certainly easier to win the lottery and you're more likely to be struck by lightening and all that.

Becasue it does happen with some, self-reported, frequency, then I would argue that there must be many more than one potential soul mate on the planet for each of us. If I take this analysis seriously, then I'd have to contend that there are probably hundreds of thousands of potential soul mates FOR EACH OF US on this planet. If that were not the case, the odds for so many of us finding one would simply be too high.

As a result, I don't have to worry about searching the barren mountains of Northeastern China to find my soul mate. I can literally look, and likely find one, in the 100 square miles that surround me, which is exactly what nearly everyone actually does in the real world.
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