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Old 07-29-2010, 09:39 PM
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wow thanks everyone. It sucks because I am in love with him but in my guts I know I really should do myself the favor and move on.
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Old 07-29-2010, 09:59 PM
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It's just...SO disrespectful what he did. I'm sorry
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Old 07-30-2010, 06:41 AM
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Cheating destroys trust and quite often this is not something that can ever be gained back from anyone. I hope this is not the case for you. There are good people out there that will treat you with the respect, compassion and the dignity you deserve. They are honest and open and able to communicate and be patient with you as you would be with them in return because they will encourage better things in you that make you feel grounded and loved...

Go and find them!

This guy is a done deal and is destroying not only your trust but your self worth and self respect. It's hard to recover from that and I would bet that when you do end it for good that you will need to spend a great deal of time in recovery, regaining the things you have lost.

Why not start now, before he takes more away from you!
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Old 07-30-2010, 07:57 PM
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I also agree with ygirl. His actions have indicated that he will continue to betray your trust. I also believe that he is lying to you about them not having sex. Come on, they share a bedroom and don't have sex? Puh-Lease!

And of course, the unsafe sex is pretty much unforgivable. You just don't do that to someone you love!
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Old 07-30-2010, 10:04 PM
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(((((((((((((((hugs)))))))))))))))

Good luck.

Take your hurting heart some where else. Let it heal then get back out there and find someone worthy of you.
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Old 07-30-2010, 10:49 PM
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And of course, the unsafe sex is pretty much unforgivable. You just don't do that to someone you love!
Yep! My ex did with anyone he could find (one of the reasons he's my ex).


This guy is disrespectful and not worthy of you.
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Old 07-31-2010, 03:00 AM
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Again Thanks to everyone for all the support. Its funny how sometimes you know deep in the corners of your heart whats true and what needs to be done but how a bunch of complete strangers telling you exactly those same things makes it all ring true. Thanks for the validation. Ive spent the better part of the last year trying to get him to see the nature of his "evil ways" just trying to get him to see from my perspective. like hitting a brick wall over and over again. He really honestly believes he is in the right and thinks he has done right by me. He once read the description of what a narcissist is and announced that it sounded like him and he was smug like it was a good thing. lol. I really do want him to be happy. I will never be happy with him.

side note Anyone is the Phoenix AZ area who wants a torrid rebound relationship for about a month and a half? JK lol
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Old 08-01-2010, 01:39 AM
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Wow! I think this guy has a serious lack of respect! For you and himself, including the other girl. If he has cheated with her,then I'm willing to bet that he has cheated with others. It is funny that when we have issues that some of us find someplace(like this) to vent and get advice.
So heres my advice, dump this guy and come find me! I live close by to you! just kidding girl. But remember you are not alone.
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Old 08-01-2010, 07:25 PM
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Here's one more vote for dumping this jackass and moving on. He's a liar, and will only continue to lie to you if you let him.
He doesn't want poly, he just wants his own way.
Be brave.
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Old 08-02-2010, 01:57 PM
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wow thanks everyone. It sucks because I am in love with him but in my guts I know I really should do myself the favor and move on.
It is very possible to be in love with someone, while also being aware that the person is not right for you. Observing a person's behavior and making a rational and logical decision about being willing to pursue a serious relationship with them or not is a healthy process. You can walk away from someone you are madly in love with. It doesn't mean you don't love them. It just means you are taking care of yourself.
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