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Old 07-25-2010, 08:21 PM
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My first poly relationship was MFM. Now, while the two guys were, in many ways, dating, they were not in a sexual relationship with each other. However, they were often in sexual situations with me simultaneously (Does that qualify as a male unicorn? I certainly found it "magical") and were comfortable being that close. We had a all-sitting-around-th-house-naked kind of relationship.

My current partner is bi and I admit, I get really turned on by the idea of him with another guy. My husband has no desire to be that guy, but there are plenty of other options.

So ... I can't speak for the community as a whole, but my poly experience has been pretty guy/guy friendly.
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Old 07-25-2010, 08:46 PM
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drgnsyr : thanks for letting me know that a poly relationship with two guys and one girl has actually occured. I was beginning to believe that was a mythical creature in and of itself.

Now I just gotta find some of these guys lol.
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Old 07-25-2010, 09:59 PM
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drgnsyr : thanks for letting me know that a poly relationship with two guys and one girl has actually occured. I was beginning to believe that was a mythical creature in and of itself.

Now I just gotta find some of these guys lol.
Let me know where they are . . .

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Old 07-26-2010, 02:17 AM
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curious. What's a 'unicorn'?
A Unicorn is, in actual definition, a mythical creature thought to not exist. When used in the context that I used, I mean a type of person that is thought to not exist
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Old 07-26-2010, 02:23 AM
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There's actually a youtube scripted show about a MFM polyamory family, appropriately titled "Family", while the acting may not be the best, and mid season they kinda take you for a loop I found it to be a very well put together show as a whole, although it's only had one season so far, I'd suggest all poly people to check it out

here's the link to the first episode
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=G2-MTs_Lsog

you can simply watch the rest by watching the next episode over in the related videos list

also you could just search the youtube channel 3DogPictures

again, I really did enjoy the show, and think others would as well, and the acting does get MUCH better later in the season
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Old 07-28-2010, 09:22 PM
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A Unicorn is, in actual definition, a mythical creature thought to not exist. When used in the context that I used, I mean a type of person that is thought to not exist
Oh, ok. Thanks!
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Old 07-28-2010, 11:11 PM
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I just find it easier to be in relationships with men. Most of the women ive tried dating are not easy to deal with.
Boy is that true!

Speaking as a woman: Women are high-maintenance and needy!! LOL... all the boys say so! Men are high-maintenance too, but we women seem inclined to want to take care of them :P
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Old 07-29-2010, 02:31 AM
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Boy is that true!

Speaking as a woman: Women are high-maintenance and needy!! LOL... all the boys say so! Men are high-maintenance too, but we women seem inclined to want to take care of them :P
Eh. I've found that the women I date tend not to be very high-maintenance. Actually the people I date tend not to be high-maintenance. I generally don't find that an attractive quality so I'm not drawn to it. I think you're just as likely to find high-maintenance men as it is to find high-maintenance women. And I've seen a lot of men highly inclined to date high-maintenance partners in order to take care of them.

I guess the point is that I think gender has a lot less to do with being high-maintenance than people generally think.

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Old 07-29-2010, 04:51 AM
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There is still an aweful lot of unfreindly crap around gays in general, and men take it a little harder than women in society so far. The possible reasons for this are myriad and irrelevent, so long as the fct that gay men take more heat from homophoes than most women is stipulated.

What's more, it gets even weirder when looking away from gay and homing in (hahahahaha) on bisexuality - for whatever reason, bi women are more accepted - in fact, becoming more the 'norm' every day - and bi men are almost treated more poorly than gay men - and oddly enough, often moreso by gay men than straight.

I imagine this has a bit to do with it.

Also - in another thread, the issue of women having an "easier" time sharing than guys came up; this and many other reasons might explain the assumption by so many that polymory = polygamy.

I am straight, even tried to experiment against my own insincts once and proved laughably that I am zero percent gay, lol. 2 of the girls in the house are quite openly and very bisexual, the 3rd is straaight but becoming more curious, she could land on either side of that coin. So I guess our relationship just holds up the other image, lol. I'll try to be more attracted to men if it'll help - no promises on the effectiveness of these attempts, though!

A unicorn in swinger and poly, etc, circles is a bisexual individual who is attracted to both partners in a couple. Usually referred to in the mythical sense because it happens so rarely yet everyone in the scene is looking for them; a unicorn is anyone who fits the critera, but if left unspecified, the default assumption is the "HBB" or "Hot Bi Babe" image.

There are many MFM relationships on this site, not sure where the idea that most here are not came from? It almost seems to be 50/50, or even SLIGHTLY weighted TOWARDS the MFM arrangement from what I read..?
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Old 07-30-2010, 12:50 AM
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I have nothing to contribute to this thread other than the fact I find two guys kissing hot and have been known to cheer if I see it.
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