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Old 07-07-2010, 11:42 AM
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With regards to the original question... apparently, OKC does occasionally yield results.. we're meeting with a like-minded couple this weekend, because the woman and I have been talking, and there might be something there. (our spouses aren't interested in each other at this point, tala only dates women by her choice) So, I guess that's one way!
I also believe in telling people I'm interested in, right up front, how my life is and the way I live. It doesn't get all that many positive results, really, as far as dating goes.. but it does get the air clear and understanding in place quickly, and a surprising (happily) number of those people still choose to be friends which I still consider a big win.
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Old 07-08-2010, 03:31 PM
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Hello We are new to this myself Male his looking for a female companion where would one start looking lol I haven't dated anyone new in 17 yrs I'm in the Toronto area east approx 1 hr any help would be great

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Old 07-09-2010, 02:23 PM
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I am a female, 53 years old. My male partner, Richard, and I have joined an online dating site for swingers. I have posted a list of the couples we have met (12 of them) in just 3 short weeks on this site. (link to that post is attached) We have been on 12 "first dates" and have not had one drama or bad experience. There was not always a mutual chemistry and attraction all the way around, but we have enjoyed every meeting. There was usually at least some attraction between two of the people which helped us feel encouraged each time.

http://www.polyamory.com/forum/showp...2&postcount=49

We have been careful to screen out people who are just wanting sport sex. All you have to do is look at the photos and read the profiles. We have not contacted or agreed to meet with anyone who has a genital shot photo on their profile, or any distastful photos.

We spent a lot of time with our photos and writing our profile. We are sure that is why we have had so much imediate interest. I've chatted with a member who doesn't have any photos posted and the profile isn't written well. They have only met a few couples in several years.

I would be happy to share advice about photos, writing your profile or the name of the site we are on with anyone who wants to send me a private message requesting it.
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Old 07-28-2010, 06:54 PM
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Self explanatory question.

Other than dating sites (which I hate) or random connections - how do you meet other people?

Just as a way of explanation - I've never dated - my dh was my boss - and we 'hooked up' and started our relationship that way.
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Old 07-29-2010, 06:39 AM
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Self explanatory question.

Other than dating sites (which I hate) or random connections - how do you meet other people?

Just as a way of explanation - I've never dated - my dh was my boss - and we 'hooked up' and started our relationship that way.
poly events/groups, kink events/groups, queer events/groups, it depends on your interests... much like how you got together with your boss, if you are somewhere with people, you will meet people.
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Old 07-29-2010, 03:02 PM
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Meeting people is difficult for my wife and I. We don't really get out much. We simply don't socialize much at all...and when we do, it's 99% of the time in a vanilla environment. and the 1% of the time it's in a more open environment, the people aren't ones we would consider dating. Oh well....The search goes on.
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Old 07-29-2010, 03:30 PM
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Self explanatory question.

Other than dating sites (which I hate) or random connections - how do you meet other people?

Just as a way of explanation - I've never dated - my dh was my boss - and we 'hooked up' and started our relationship that way.
You have access to a huge kink community where a lot are poly. I seem to have decent luck on this site :P, as well as real life...I must be a flirt or something.

You should talk to Jennifer as well, she claims a fairly high percentage of her group are poly. Might really hit it off there (not to mention some of the parties look REALLY fun)
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Old 07-30-2010, 01:58 AM
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You have access to a huge kink community where a lot are poly. I seem to have decent luck on this site :P, as well as real life...I must be a flirt or something.

You should talk to Jennifer as well, she claims a fairly high percentage of her group are poly. Might really hit it off there (not to mention some of the parties look REALLY fun)
Yay! I found the post! (lol)

The kink community- yep - lots of fun - but not necessarily a good dating pool.

I'll just keep talking to people, practicing that patience thing... (that's fun, LOL)

Jennifer - as we discussed - not an option. I just get really really bad vibes from that direction. I know that there are a LOT of people who connect really well with her - and all the power to them.

However... I'm always up for meeting new people.
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Old 07-31-2010, 02:46 PM
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how do you find someone who doesn't mind being considered second best?
I think it's not about being "second best". I'm a second girlfriend, and I NEVER feel as though I'm unimportant. It's just a matter of finances, and time. He shares his life with her as a spouse, and they have a teenager at home. I get to go on a date or hang out with the family, but I live my own life, and I like it. I am my own "primary".

If you treat second partners as though they are worthwhile, chances are they'll enjoy the experience, IMHO.
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Old 08-07-2010, 04:02 AM
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Default Seeking Someone and/or Help

Basically i would like to know something here
don't feel offended as i just want truthful answers and insight

How and/or where could i find a woman who is interested in a polyamorous relationship?

I've dabbled in sites and some of them don't have let's say a checkbox of this sort.

Please give insight and/or answers to help us!
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