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Old 07-18-2010, 09:06 PM
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My wife and I are considering setting up a meet and greet group once a month or so. Has anyone else here done this before?

If so, how did it go and give us some details. We could use all the help we can get.
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Old 07-18-2010, 09:18 PM
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What sort of venue do you plan to use?
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Old 07-18-2010, 09:23 PM
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Good question....I would think possibly something along the lines of the local swingers clubs....because those places are open to that kind of thing, whereas most other places aren't. Plus, at those, there are places to sit and talk, and other places to dance. All under one roof.


Of course, I'm TOTALLY open to ideas! I just don't want it to be a discussion/support group.
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Old 07-18-2010, 10:26 PM
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Do you want it to be a space dedicated to your event, or do you want to simply meet somewhere where the general public is also present?

You could have it at a park or some other outdoor setting. I think it's better to have these things in an environment where other activities are present so that people can form connections based on how they would hang out in their everyday lives. Swingers clubs, and other dedicated venues, often focus on the one narrow aspect of entertainment. Besides, a lot of people, not just polyamorous people, are turned off by what they think of as the "bar" or "club" scene.

You might consider using an art gallery type of space and having a "wine tasting" or something like that. I'm not sure where you are located but if you are near northeastern Massachusetts I have an idea for a place you can use.

Just some things to consider.

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Old 07-18-2010, 11:12 PM
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I started a munch for local kinksters in my area.

I created an event on a website I frequent - and then showed up.

I set up in a local bar - there's a back area that's somewhat secluded - and we've met there 2nd Sunday of every month for the last 4 or 5 months.

Attendance has been as little as me, to as many as 8? I think was the most.

Its been fun, and something I'll continue to do
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Old 07-19-2010, 12:31 AM
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Do you want it to be a space dedicated to your event, or do you want to simply meet somewhere where the general public is also present?

You could have it at a park or some other outdoor setting. I think it's better to have these things in an environment where other activities are present so that people can form connections based on how they would hang out in their everyday lives. Swingers clubs, and other dedicated venues, often focus on the one narrow aspect of entertainment. Besides, a lot of people, not just polyamorous people, are turned off by what they think of as the "bar" or "club" scene.

You might consider using an art gallery type of space and having a "wine tasting" or something like that. I'm not sure where you are located but if you are near northeastern Massachusetts I have an idea for a place you can use.

Just some things to consider.
I like your ideas. My wife was so kind as to remind me the reasons why we no longer frequent the swingers clubs. LOL The issue I have, is this: $$$ It seems as though almost anything costs money. And I has none. LOL Now, I like the idea of going to an art gallery. I also like the idea of a wine tasting event. (I've never been to one before)

The idea behind going to a club or bar type place, was that it typically attracts a younger crowd. Now, at 39, I'm not exactly "young"......but I feel out of place amongst people who are in their late 40's and above. LOL I'm such a disgusting person sometimes. LOL


Anyway, keep the ideas coming guys....L and I will pick one out and try it out a few times and see what happens.


p.s. We are in the Tampa Florida area.
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Old 07-19-2010, 02:31 AM
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The idea behind going to a club or bar type place, was that it typically attracts a younger crowd. Now, at 39, I'm not exactly "young"......but I feel out of place amongst people who are in their late 40's and above. LOL I'm such a disgusting person sometimes. LOL
The bar I chose is a neighborhood pub. It doubles as a sports bar and everyone from 18-80 goes there. Its a nice place.

I have no other suggestions - but good luck!
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Old 07-19-2010, 03:23 AM
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You might want to make it as neutral a location as possible. You may make a number of poly people uncomfortable hosting it at a swingers club. ...
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I like your ideas. My wife was so kind as to remind me the reasons why we no longer frequent the swingers clubs. LOL The issue I have, is this: $$$ It seems as though almost anything costs money. And I has none.

This is why I suggested a public park. Don't you have a park nearby with picnic tables and basketball or tennis courts? People could bring their own food. You have to eat no matter what.

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The idea behind going to a club or bar type place, was that it typically attracts a younger crowd. Now, at 39, I'm not exactly "young"......but I feel out of place amongst people who are in their late 40's and above. LOL I'm such a disgusting person sometimes. LOL
Those young hot people would probably feel "out of place" around you. Attitudes can be contagious.

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Old 07-19-2010, 03:09 PM
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Public park is good...and sounds fun....Of course, we could always go kayaking from that meet up point if ppl wanted to. Hmmm...Gears grinding and smoke is billowing as I think harder and harder. LOL

And I never said young "hot" people...Just a younger crowd. Unfortunatly, I relate better to the late 20's early 30's crowd better than people my own age. That has a lot to do with my wife and I looking a lot younger than we actually are.
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