Is it really THAT hard?

[foxflame88]

Originally Posted by JRiverMartin

The thought of three people together, each in love with the other is..., SO HOT!

<taking a cold shower>

I couldn't agree more... but me thinks I'll be taking lots of cold showers to come, as I am still searching.

[Sunshinegrl]

Originally Posted by JRiverMartin

The thought of three people together, each in love with the other is..., SO HOT!

<taking a cold shower>

Im one of three and it makes ME fucking hot!!

[River]

Who turned up the heat? I need some air conditioning.

[aussielover]

Ahh River, you do have a way with words

Originally Posted by Sunshinegrl

Im one of three and it makes ME fucking hot!!

lmao me too... Grrrrrahhh

[Degenerate]

Originally Posted by JRiverMartin

The thought of three people together, each in love with the other is..., SO HOT!

<taking a cold shower>

Oh I am a soppy thing. See, when I think 'three people in love', I just think SO ROMANTIC (this one is outside my experience, but not outside my boundaries)

[redpepper]

Originally Posted by Degenerate

I think lots of people think you should 'pick a team' and stick with it but (speaking as a pansexual person) it's not a very liberated view ;-) It is also not easy because most people don't get poly, so they scrabble for a model they understand. 'kinky straight couple brings in another girl' they understand. 'All three if us are in love', they do not comprehend and is more out of this world than most movies, so they probably subconsciously seek something more familiar to hang it on.

I think you are totally right about this to some extent. I forget that I have "grown up" in a queer friendly, queer positive, sex positive sub-culture to some degree. I have all the looks of someone in a hetro-norm culture, but once I really talk about myself and what I value and who I cherish in my life, it is hard for others to see me fit into that anymore. I forget, and therefore, quite often, make no attempts to hide my true identity most of the time as a result. Why should I anyway, they can deal with it. I deal with hetrosexism, homophobia, gender stereo typing, and other forms of bigotry and intolerance of others everyday in my work and in my everyday life.

I know I push buttons and I make no apology when it makes people think....

what I think is hot and makes me hummmmm is all that matters and all that others should be happy about for me.

If they look at me with a stunned face, most of the time I like to think that they have gas... lol.... it helps me keep smiling and not take it on...

[MonoVCPHG]

Originally Posted by Sunshinegrl

Im one of three and it makes ME fucking hot!!

I'm such a mono vanilla cracker I can't even count to three!!

[AutumnalTone]

Soppy thing? I thought you were a degenerate!

: )

Thank you, thank you! I'll be here all week!

[Sunshinegrl]

Originally Posted by redpepper

I think you are totally right about this to some extent. I forget that I have "grown up" in a queer friendly, queer positive, sex positive sub-culture to some degree. I have all the looks of someone in a hetro-norm culture, but once I really talk about myself and what I value and who I cherish in my life, it is hard for others to see me fit into that anymore. I forget, and therefore, quite often, make no attempts to hide my true identity most of the time as a result. Why should I anyway, they can deal with it. I deal with hetrosexism, homophobia, gender stereo typing, and other forms of bigotry and intolerance of others everyday in my work and in my everyday life.

I know I push buttons and I make no apology when it makes people think....

what I think is hot and makes me hummmmm is all that matters and all that others should be happy about for me.

If they look at me with a stunned face, most of the time I like to think that

Im a bit the same. I am who I am and If they dont like it. Bully for them. I wont change who I am for no one but myself. Im happy with who I am. I am happy with "what" I am. Isnt that what matters the most?

[Mark1npt]

Yes it is, Sunshinegirl.