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View Poll Results: Is masturbation sex?
I'm a woman and I vote yes 28 24.14%
I'm a woman and I vote no 28 24.14%
I'm a man and I voted yes 16 13.79%
I'm a man and I vote no 25 21.55%
I'm gender-variant and I vote yes 1 0.86%
I'm gender-variant and I vote no 1 0.86%
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Old 07-06-2010, 05:13 AM
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Maybe it's my Vanillaness or a definition thing, but I was under the impression that cumming and orgasm were the same, just different names. Do please share your thoughts on the subject. I'm always interested in learning new things and broadening my horizons. (honest request, no sarcasm either)
Maybe I am separating the term for my own use. But personally I can cum...which is like peeing. It happens, I am dont, "take it and go"...

I orgasm and its a totally different effect and use. Its not just a functional release of "something"...its an experience

For me they feel and react totally differently in my body.
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Old 07-06-2010, 05:33 AM
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Maybe I am separating the term for my own use. But personally I can cum...which is like peeing. It happens, I am dont, "take it and go"...

I orgasm and its a totally different effect and use. Its not just a functional release of "something"...its an experience

For me they feel and react totally differently in my body.
Maybe it is partially a definition thing and maybe a gender thing. Perhaps cumming and orgasm are different for men then for women. Anyone else wish to weigh in on the subject?

Although thinking about your answer, still doesn't change my reasoning...which perhaps I wasn't clear on. If Sex was the name of a book with all of the different acts as chapters, Masturbation would be a chapter, no matter the reason or feeling associated with the act. Functionally, it is sex.

Now if you wanted to separate sex into the idea of sex and fucking as two totally different things, then there would probably be a reassignment of chapters or at least what is included in those chapters.

Sorry if this seems meandering, my mind is not all there.
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Old 07-06-2010, 06:39 AM
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I consider sex a form of communication which includes the generation of energy. Seeing how I feel more energy when I am alone than when I had casual sex, I guess for me masturbation is sex. I guess that also means the sex I had with those people was actually less than sex...it was an experiment....nice thread, gets you thinking
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Old 07-06-2010, 01:51 PM
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Now if you wanted to separate sex into the idea of sex and fucking as two totally different things, then there would probably be a reassignment of chapters or at least what is included in those chapters.
too literal. In my first response I also said I require a person there for me to consider it sex.

Cumming is a function of biology
Orgasm is a relationship building exercise
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Old 07-07-2010, 02:54 AM
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OK, I was wondering if it was a gender thing. I was shocked recently to have 2 male friends tell me they didnt consider jerking off to be sex.

And then I asked a couple other men and got the same response.

I've always considered jilling off as sex- sex with myself. Sometimes it's a quickie, but I really like a nice 1 1/2 hr session when the mood strikes, using toys, lovely fantasies, maybe watch a little porn or read erotica first.

But as per my wonderings about intact vs circed men, maybe the orgasm a guy usually gives himself is just like a sneeze.

Do men need a partner to have it feel like sex? Do any women out there get what I am saying about having an event session, not just a quickie, when having self pleasure?
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Old 07-07-2010, 04:21 AM
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For myself ;

- If I am masterbating without fantasy, it is not sex.

- If I masterbate with fantasy, it is sex.

I`m a happy self-a-sexual.
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Old 07-07-2010, 04:47 AM
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OK, I was wondering if it was a gender thing.... Do men need a partner to have it feel like sex? Do any women out there get what I am saying about having an event session, not just a quickie, when having self pleasure?

I'm not a man, I need a partner for it to feel like sex. I do however have "event" sessions sometimes... but it still isn't sex to me if I am alone.
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Old 07-07-2010, 05:09 AM
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But as per my wonderings about intact vs circed men, maybe the orgasm a guy usually gives himself is just like a sneeze.
What exactly are you wondering?
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Old 07-08-2010, 07:32 PM
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Male and no, but I'm really still debating it because it's a question I've never thought of before. Maybe it is sex, but a different kind than I get with a partner. All I know is that masturbating leaves me feeling different than sex with my partner. Jacking off can be as or more physically intense, but the latter almost always leaves me more satisfied unless the masturbation involved a really good, vivid fantasy.

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Old 07-08-2010, 07:44 PM
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no...not for me...its relief...like peeing.

Putting my finger in my mouth isn't giving myself oral...

It probably can be...but it isn't for me. Sex includes another body in my world
This is probably the best explination for me as well.. Without the interaction of another person it is more of a bodily function (one of relief) than an act of sex.
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