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Old 06-24-2010, 03:29 PM
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Old 06-24-2010, 04:07 PM
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In Ariakas' case, it sounded like each of you needed your own breaks from many aspects of life, not just each other. She needed to go home and be away from everything day-to-day. You need to withdraw and be with just yourself when you figure things out. That strikes me as different from "the couple" taking a break "from each other" and still carrying-on their usual day-to-day lives.
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Old 06-25-2010, 10:56 AM
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I have this nagging feeling that something isn't right. She deleted her online dating profile, he didn't. I know he doesn't want a mono relationship and is still looking to date (I saw him on Tuesday and we discussed things even further). Argh! I guess I just have to wait this out...supposed to see him on the 10th. Just feel like I'm a little blind. We'll see. Thank you everyone for your support as always!
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Old 06-25-2010, 02:48 PM
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I have this nagging feeling that something isn't right. She deleted her online dating profile, he didn't. I know he doesn't want a mono relationship and is still looking to date (I saw him on Tuesday and we discussed things even further). Argh! I guess I just have to wait this out...supposed to see him on the 10th. Just feel like I'm a little blind. We'll see. Thank you everyone for your support as always!


I would say your boyfriend may have encountered his first "cowgirl".

At the very least this indicates that this new girl is probably monogamous. I did the same thing when I met Redpepper. I had a POF profile for about a month, had two "encounters" and then deleted it almost as soon as I met her. Coincidentally I am monogamous...but not a cowboy
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Old 06-25-2010, 03:41 PM
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I would say your boyfriend may have encountered his first "cowgirl".

At the very least this indicates that this new girl is probably monogamous. I did the same thing when I met Redpepper. I had a POF profile for about a month, had two "encounters" and then deleted it almost as soon as I met her. Coincidentally I am monogamous...but not a cowboy
Forgive my ignorance but what's a cowgirl?
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Old 06-25-2010, 03:49 PM
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Forgive my ignorance but what's a cowgirl?
A cowboy/girl is someone who pretends to be polyamorous but is really interested in being in a monogamous relationship with one of the members of an existing poly set-up.

In the same way that a "cowperson" would throw a rope onto one head of cattle in an attempt to remove it from the herd, so does the "cowperson" try to remove a polyamorous person from the "herd", although the latter typically uses psychological and emotional "ropes" to do so.

It's what we call a "metaphor".

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Old 06-25-2010, 03:56 PM
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^harsh ygirl?

I like the term cowboy/cowgirl, it's pretty accurate and funny. I'd say the only problem with it is that the cowboy/cowgirl try to rope people in subconsciously sometimes. I say "Virus", is a more appropriate term...hahaha

I think you're being double teamed with the cowgirl and your boyfriend's issues with your poly ideals/way of life. In the least it's just another bad sign.
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Old 06-25-2010, 04:06 PM
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^harsh ygirl?

I like the term cowboy/cowgirl, it's pretty accurate and funny. I'd say the only problem with it is that the cowboy/cowgirl try to rope people in subconsciously sometimes. I say "Virus", is a more appropriate term...hahaha

I think you're being double teamed with the cowgirl and your boyfriend's issues with your poly ideals/way of life. In the least it's just another bad sign.

Haha no worries, I kinda figured that's what it meant or something to that effect. I would think the whole double teaming would be accurate except my boyfriend was the poly one and I was a mono until he introduced me to the concept, and I have no problem with it (as I've had other relationships during ours). He is still looking to date etc. I just feel like something isn't right still. Y'know woman's intuition and all
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Old 06-25-2010, 04:18 PM
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@rpcrazy- Its not harsh because ygirl made it so. That is along the line of the definition.
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Old 06-25-2010, 05:22 PM
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Excuse me why are you calling me "harsh"?



"Harsh" would be if I were to say, oh something like, "I'm never answering another newbie question ever again".
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