Casual Sex - Discussion

[River]

I'm all for casual sex. I mean, why get all dressed up for it?!

But what is meant by 'casual sex'? I suppose it depends on who is saying it, when, and where.

I'm all for keeping things light, but I also want a human connection that lights up more than just my second chakra, so to speak. I want all my chakras in on the action. Especially the heart. And I want his or her heart there in it too.

[Ariakas]

Originally Posted by River

But what is meant by 'casual sex'? I suppose it depends on who is saying it, when, and where.

Its true...apparently my casual sex is very different than others. Its another thing hard to pin down because it is different for everyone

I gotta say, have sex in a tux is quite formal...so I have had formal sex...I shoudl try khakis next time

[River]

Many, many years ago I had had a string of somewhat casual sexual encounters. A couple of them were truly fulfilling because I felt a real connection which was bigger than just a genital high. (I strain for words... genital high? genital boost? genital thrill?...?) But in the morning my partners of these occasions were either gone or otherwise unavailable. (How's that saying go about breakfast?) And I wanted continuity, not a cold and sudden Houdini act. I mean, heck, if it's really good ... doesn't one long for more of it?

[Ariakas]

You just made my morning...haha @ genital high

some people like to dine and dash. That is their comfort level.

[River]

Hmm. I suspect folks can get at what I mean by "genital high". I mean, sometimes we get high in the center of our chest, sometimes in our head, sometimes between our legs..., but the best (IMHO) is when the whole body gets "high".

[DharmaBum23]

Originally Posted by rpcrazy

...what?
http://www.webmd.com/heart-disease/n...ess-heart-risk

aim for 3 times a week at least...if you're intimacy levels aren't high, try spicing it up. Spend less time on your hobbies, and more time on your loveys.

I was not aware of that. I now have a new reason to try to get more sex(not that I needed anymore).

And I acknowledge what you said, but I can't come up with a good response that isn't whiny. I am sorry.

[redpepper]

I like the link to chakras. That is exactly how I like to have sex. All the time.

Otherwise I might as well weed the garden at the same time. Ass in the air, there ya go... Although that has its appeal with someone I connect with.

Interesting about the morning after. I am pretty bad with transitions, I have a hard time not having the person respond the next day. I have experienced that so many times. It breaks my heart and makes me feel used.

[Derbylicious]

Originally Posted by redpepper

Interesting about the morning after. I am pretty bad with transitions, I have a hard time not having the person respond the next day. I have experienced that so many times. It breaks my heart and makes me feel used.

Me too. I think it's pretty natural to need that contact.

[redpepper]

there is actually a term for that morning after hangover when having had casual sex the night before. I forget what it is though. Apparently it is quite common to feel a lack of self worth and somehow "dirty" ... I know I have. Anyone know anything about that study, or whatever it was?

[Magdlyn]

Originally Posted by Ariakas

The juxtaposition you mention is the exact reason why I love blowjobs...now. This will sound odd, but enjoying blowjobs is really recent for me. I refused to let girls do it, because it was just so damn dominant I couldn't handle it. Not to mention being uncut makes the technique very different something most north american women do not get on the first try....

For me, a really fun part of being poly and having the happy hunting grounds of ok cupid is searching for local men with intact (un-circed) penises.

I'd never gotten to play with an intact cock til last year. I am an "intactivist"... I left my son as nature created him, with a whole penis.

So... yeah. Intact cocks are decidedly different, much more sensitive! I've gotten to play with 4 or 5 intact men and it's a treat to treat them delicately during blowjobs and handjobs. In a way, it's more like being w a woman... intact men seem to have more thundering overwhelming whole body orgasms. Not that I havent brought cut men to that point, but it seems intact ones get there as a matter of course. Yum.