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Old 06-24-2010, 04:41 AM
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To me, the biggest con of NRE has to be the insecurity that accompanies it. My boyfriend has never, ever done anything to make me feel insecure, has probably in fact done more to make me feel secure than just about anyone I've ever known. But I still spent a decent amount of time those first few months worried that he was going to lose interest, over-analyzing silly little things, obsessing over whether or not I was going to screw something up or push him away, etc. All of that early uncertainty is part of the excitement, but it's also a freakin' roller coaster. I like where things are at right now; after 6 months, I wouldn't say the NRE is gone, but I'm definitely comfortable and secure and relaxed while still feeling plenty giddy in the good ways
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Old 06-24-2010, 01:20 PM
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Another thing about NRE that I think is a pro and a con. It makes everything MORE intense. The good and the bad.
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Old 06-24-2010, 03:43 PM
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NRE causes people to hide their shortcomings.
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Old 06-24-2010, 03:55 PM
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From reading all this, I`m starting to think, I don`t experience NRE.

At least, not in the typical fashion.

Hmm,..gives me something to think about anyways.
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Old 06-24-2010, 04:06 PM
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From reading all this, I`m starting to think, I don`t experience NRE.

At least, not in the typical fashion.

Hmm,..gives me something to think about anyways.
hmmm...knowing you a little bit, I would say the way you process things, you don't succome to NRE. ...just my take anyways
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Old 06-24-2010, 04:38 PM
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Ariakas :

Singing : Da-Da-Dum,...,..You may be right,..I may be crazy,....


I`m not sure about that ? Could be true. I should ponder it for awhile. As cheesey as it sounds, I still look at my husband and get butterflies. That feeling never wore off, or went on hiatus.

I can`t recall going 'crazy' with NRE though, or it altering my thinking, or having to keep it under wraps. I tend to get into the mentality, that if I like someone, and want to keep a good thing going, to do it 'right'.

The more I think about it, I think thats because of my long-time profession. You have to be patient, and consistant, in order to get the desired results. It is probably learned behaviour I carried over to relationships.

Which,..makes me sound like I am awesome. But no worries, I`m fully capable of being a dipshit in other ways. :P
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Old 06-24-2010, 04:43 PM
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Which,..makes me sound like I am awesome. But no worries, I`m fully capable of being a dipshit in other ways. :P
I'll believe that when I see it
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