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Old 06-12-2010, 02:24 AM
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I know exactly how you feel. My wife and I have transitioned to a poly relationship a couple of years ago. It wasn't my idea, but I don' think I'd go back to the way things were even if I could. I've had similar problems finding women who understand where I'm coming from and what I'm looking for in a relationship. I'm not just looking for casual sex or a FWB relationship either, I'm looking for connection and a relationship. I'm not saying I would turn down a sexual relationship, but that certainly isn't my first choice. I wouldn't rule out single mothers, they aren't all looking for fathers for their children, and more often they have had lots of life experience and are more likely to be able to deal with the fact that any relationship you may have with them will be different. I'm frustrated too. I've recently met a great woman whom I really like, and she's totally confused about how to proceed with the situation and it's killing me. It's frustrating, so I feel where you're coming from. Only advice I have is don't give up on finding that woman who does understand what you are looking for and understands that love doesn't have to be exclusive and it can be inclusive.

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Old 06-19-2010, 09:14 AM
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Great story

On the same note, I picked my wife up in a bar, she was visiting town for 3 weeks. We had an intense 3 week sexually charged temp relationship...

I moved out west and married her and have been with her 10 years now.
Sounds like our story. My husband was from Saskatchewan but worked on the road and one of his stops was in Winnipeg. Both fetishists, we met at Winnipeg's Black & Blue Ball. The Winnipeg scene then had a weekly wings night, I found out he was in Portage La Prairie, which is about an hour from Winnipeg, and asked him if he wanted to come over. He said we should probably go out first, so we went for wings. He delayed the rest of his route for about 3 weeks to stay with me and then invited me home for Christmas. The rest, as they say, is history.

The funniest part (to me) is that, as a Hallowe'en ball, everyone was in costume. He was dressed as a member of Blue Man Group. He's the goofball type and the blue paint hid most of his facial features (and receding hairline), so I figured he was about 18 or 19, compared to my 25. So I wrote him off as "just a kid" ... only weeks later did I realize he was 36, and that I was "the kid"
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Old 06-20-2010, 01:14 AM
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Hey, Black and blue ball! I've been to that. I lived in a town outside of Winnipeg... the BIG city was my getaway!
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Old 06-21-2010, 02:41 PM
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lol...you're story is awesome

@river's post
Recently my g/f met up with a friend who was an ex of an ex(all females). Her friend was pissed at the ex, saying maybe she'll go BI because "chicks just aren't serious" in reference to the ex not wanting to be an exclusive relationship with the friend and the fact that she started dating a "n-word guy"(yes, a lesbian being a racist...wtf?). The "it's just fun" idea is pretty huge in the "queer" community it seems. I think it's hard anywhere to find something really nice and stable.

Why are you looking for other people? ask that to yourself
Also, i've been mass amounts of thought into to the scenario where I would go out and "look" for an addition to my relationship or relationships, and the only thing i've been able to come up with is the numbers.

If you go out (or stay in) and meet people, and get facebooks, emails, #'s 4/7 days a week, you'll on average meet 1-5 people a day, being 20 people a month, 120 people in half a year, so on and so forth.
If you're honest about poly to all these people, EVENTUALLY, you'll meet some kick ass people who are gonna be ok with it. Especially if the poly talks comes from their curiosity and not your broadcasting.
However, this is all hypothetical, but...you get my drift.
-"There hasn't been a person i've been with that I didn't love for 10 seconds to 10 years." David Duchovny

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