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Old 06-13-2010, 04:50 PM
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For the most part I'm not a big fan of NRE. Although I don't deal with it very often I find it primarily blinds people to reason and the emotions of others.

NRE is a selfish thing I find...not intentionally, but it makes you think everyone around you should be just as happy and understand your joy when often they just want you to shut up.

It does make for great sex, I agree. But true connection makes for better in my opinion. NRE is the animal phase, rutting season, after that it's the human phase; passion fueled by actual connection and not simply screwed up chemicals.

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I read an article on our local poly sight about monogamy lowering men's libido. I have often said "for every beautiful woman out there, there is a guy bored of fucking her". I have learned a lot since then. Now I think of it more as "For every beautiful women out there, there is a guy saying I love you to her but has lost true connection with her".
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Old 06-13-2010, 06:32 PM
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...that NRE lasts a lot longer if one party (probably the female) holds out on sex? Z has a secondary that is celibate (so far) and it seems to keep the NRE alive. They have known each other for years but their connection deepened when his marriage ended. It seems that unconsummated their relationship hasn't moved out off the NRE phase. They kiss and cuddle and she massages him which is probably just enough to hold him in the space.

What do think, I'd be very interested.
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Old 06-13-2010, 08:19 PM
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...that NRE lasts a lot longer if one party (probably the female) holds out on sex?
Someone once said to me that men lose their "fantasy" or "illusion" once they've had sex. Personally, I think it depends on the individual.
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Old 06-13-2010, 08:23 PM
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Personally, I think it depends on the individual.
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Old 06-14-2010, 12:22 AM
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sorry but whats is NRE?
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Old 06-14-2010, 02:12 AM
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sorry but whats is NRE?
new relationship energy
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Old 06-14-2010, 03:05 AM
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Old 06-14-2010, 12:33 PM
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Talking Nre..

Pros:
The world becomes rainbows and magic.
It becomes easy to get things done.
It ends someday.

Cons:
The world becomes rainbows and magic.
It becomes easy to get things done.
It ends someday.

In other words, I think that NRE's benefits and downsides are pretty much the same.

Being full of joy can be awesome but it also makes people self centered. Being able to "do things" pretty easily means that you get things done, but sometimes those things that you end up doing are bad ideas.
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Old 06-14-2010, 12:55 PM
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I really can't comment, where as I am consumed by NRE at this moment, with no ending in sight. I do have a question for the more experienced Poly people..does the relationship die out after the NRE in most cases, or do many continue on with a calmer, loving relationship. I haven't seen alot of posts on quads and their longevity. I know in our case, all of us would like to see this relationship continue on for a long time to come, but are we really in touch with reality?
I will say, that the previous posted Pro's, fit us to a tee...hopefully we can settle into a calmer state, and enjoy that for some time to come. Last night, we all switched houses for the night, and no one had sex, come to find out. Everyone was tired, but I also see that we are a little calmer, as the weeks go by. Sorry to hijack ...just wondering what some of you thought about this.. Candi
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Old 06-14-2010, 03:21 PM
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I really can't comment, where as I am consumed by NRE at this moment, with no ending in sight. I do have a question for the more experienced Poly people..does the relationship die out after the NRE in most cases, or do many continue on with a calmer, loving relationship. I haven't seen alot of posts on quads and their longevity. I know in our case, all of us would like to see this relationship continue on for a long time to come, but are we really in touch with reality?
Its just like a normal monogamous one. Once the sheen has worn off the reality of who the people are set in.

At that point anything can happen just like in "normal" relationships
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