So... Here's our story-

[DrewandLyn]

On the plus side, one does not have to make very many connections to have a great poly circle and, as with all things, success breeds success.

There are literally thousands of swingers with online profiles in our area- but out of those thousands- maybe less than a dozen polyamorous- a lot of swingers have never even heard of poly and when we bring it up they are, more than not, put off. Sex, for the swinger crowd, is often just a sport, which is off-putting to us. But as you say, it may be changing.

[idealist]

Originally Posted by DrewandLyn

On the plus side, one does not have to make very many connections to have a great poly circle ..

Very true !!

There are literally thousands of swingers with online profiles in our area- but out of those thousands- maybe less than a dozen polyamorous- a lot of swingers have never even heard of poly and when we bring it up they are, more than not, put off. Sex, for the swinger crowd, is often just a sport, which is off-putting to us. But as you say, it may be changing.

The word polyamory seems to put people off and until the word itself gains more popularity, it may be better to explain the lifestyle without using the word. It seems to be pretty easy to weed out the people looking for sport sex from the people desiring relationships. We have found a few couples and hope to be meeting them soon!!!

[DrewandLyn]

Originally Posted by idealist

We have found a few couples and hope to be meeting them soon!!!

Excellent! Bon Chance!

We did meet one couple through a swinger site that was a very positive experience... It just didn't work out long term. But the vibe from the over-whelming swinger majority, just sapped our energy from trying to find the polyamorous needles in the haystack.

[idealist]

Originally Posted by DrewandLyn

the vibe from the over-whelming swinger majority, just sapped our energy from trying to find the polyamorous needles in the haystack.

We're doing it the opposite way around. We have a very nice well written profile with lots of high quality photos. Polyamorous people are finding us and the swingers aren't interested in us, so we aren't spending any time or energy weeding through people at all!!