Originally Posted by SchrodingersCat
This is really useful CDM! They summarize quite neatly what I was trying to say. I don't think I've ever heard of the term inter-dependence, or at least not defined, but it's great!
I would like to take credit, but I can't. One of the things I did recently that has really helped a lot of stuff "click", in sense of structuring a lot of thoughts about relationships and self was Stephen Covey's "The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People
" - I heard about this a long time ago and dismissed it as just another self-help book, but recently was shown more of it in a work context and it gave me a more organised way to structure my thoughts on relationships. Very useful, because so much of it applies to poly relationships, and being effective in them (effective means making it work, in this context).
The Wikipedia article on interdependence
sheds some more light on this too.