very new to poly.
first off forgive me for no capital letters im on a cell phone. Im a 30yr old female married for 5yrs together for 8. For the last year we thought we were weirdos. Ive been in a mfm relationship with another guy. At first it was just sex. Then we grew feelings for each other. He lived with us in a seperate room but he moved out to live with his girlfriend at the time. She didnt know nothing about us and its been our secret for a long time and still is a secret. I found out about polyamory threw a websit about swingers and realized i wasnt the only person in this world like this and doing this stuff. Im not a swinger ive been faithful to my husband and my husband kinda told me to go after my bf. Now i just told my bf about all this and he is totally ok with it. They both mean the world to me but my husband is my primary. I stilll get a little scared because i have no idea what is going on and just trying to go with it. My husband would love to have a secondary but how do you tell people about it? How would he do this? How would bf bring it up to a gf? Is he single is he with someone? We all are very very new to this. My bf recently just moved back in with us. Our relationship is very secret my husband dont feel comfortable about coming out yet. I dont really mind myself. So for a very newbie any advice would be great. Expectally bring new people into our family. Im kinda nervous scared excited and happy about all of this. So all advice welcome.