hightreason
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I'm not entirely sure this is the right place to post since I don't really know if I'm looking for advice and it's not really about my relationship. Although it is kind of both. I just want to tell the story to someone, and I don't have a lot of real life friends who would completely understand.
I met a woman at a meetup group (which had nothing to do with polyamory) a few days ago. We talked a bit at the group and when it was breaking up, she suggested we go to another bar. Once away from the group, we talked more and I learned that she currently has three boyfriends. I told her I only have the one girlfriend, but am not monogamous.
Later, one of her boyfriends walks into the bar with some of his friends. We joined them and drank until the early morning light. He, his friend, she, and I went back to her place to drink more, but her boyfriend and his friend left soon after. She and I slept, no sex, just cuddling, a little kissing, and sleeping.
When we woke up the next morning, we spent the whole day just sitting around talking until evening when another of her boyfriends called and invited her out. She invited me to join them. I met him and his friends and we all commenced to drinking some more. The boyfriend I had met the previous night showed up later as well and we all drank together with their friends. I got along very well with the two boyfriends I met. They are both actors and I studied acting as well as film making and am a musician, so we all got along great.
They all stayed out later, but I was exhausted and went home around 3:00 AM. All in all I spent around 36 hours with her (some if it sleeping), and we had a great time together the whole time. I'm certain the feeling was mutual.
It's two days later, and I am finding that I already miss her company. We sent a few messages to each other on facebook yesterday. I sent her one today but she hasn't seen it yet.
I'm not quite sure how to proceed though really. I think there's little chance of having a relationship with her. She has three boyfriends already, and I can't imagine she wants yet another one. There are also some issues with that on my end. While my girlfriend doesn't mind if I have sex with other women, I don't know really know how open she would be to me having a second actual relationship.
I'm definitely going to keep in contact, though, and I guess we'll see what happens. Since she or her boyfriends payed for me almost the entire time (I was flat broke) I have an excuse to invite them out again once I get paid so that I can repay the favor.
I met a woman at a meetup group (which had nothing to do with polyamory) a few days ago. We talked a bit at the group and when it was breaking up, she suggested we go to another bar. Once away from the group, we talked more and I learned that she currently has three boyfriends. I told her I only have the one girlfriend, but am not monogamous.
Later, one of her boyfriends walks into the bar with some of his friends. We joined them and drank until the early morning light. He, his friend, she, and I went back to her place to drink more, but her boyfriend and his friend left soon after. She and I slept, no sex, just cuddling, a little kissing, and sleeping.
When we woke up the next morning, we spent the whole day just sitting around talking until evening when another of her boyfriends called and invited her out. She invited me to join them. I met him and his friends and we all commenced to drinking some more. The boyfriend I had met the previous night showed up later as well and we all drank together with their friends. I got along very well with the two boyfriends I met. They are both actors and I studied acting as well as film making and am a musician, so we all got along great.
They all stayed out later, but I was exhausted and went home around 3:00 AM. All in all I spent around 36 hours with her (some if it sleeping), and we had a great time together the whole time. I'm certain the feeling was mutual.
It's two days later, and I am finding that I already miss her company. We sent a few messages to each other on facebook yesterday. I sent her one today but she hasn't seen it yet.
I'm not quite sure how to proceed though really. I think there's little chance of having a relationship with her. She has three boyfriends already, and I can't imagine she wants yet another one. There are also some issues with that on my end. While my girlfriend doesn't mind if I have sex with other women, I don't know really know how open she would be to me having a second actual relationship.
I'm definitely going to keep in contact, though, and I guess we'll see what happens. Since she or her boyfriends payed for me almost the entire time (I was flat broke) I have an excuse to invite them out again once I get paid so that I can repay the favor.
