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Old 04-26-2010, 07:43 PM
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My concern in coming out to people is that all of a sudden all they'll see me as is poly and bi. Rather than the way they see me now where my personal life really has no bearing on any kind of day to day interactions. I don't want just one aspect of who I am to take dominance in people's minds when it comes to defining me. I find that I'm more comfortable being out to people who I know won't really take issue with it or at least who I can let go from my life fairly easily. It's a slow process with me and I'm fairly deliberate about who I tell. So far I haven't had a lot of negative reaction but then again I've avoided telling anyone from whom I expect that kind of reaction.

I keep thinking that who I love and chose to be in a relationship with shouldn't be political or even a topic of conversation. As long as everyone is happy and healthy and no one is being taken advantage of what's the problem?

Everything will be ok in the end. If it's not ok it's not the end.
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Old 04-26-2010, 08:01 PM
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and Derby makes a great arguement, some folks are not interested in/don't feel the need to come out to everyone they know, that is definitely an option, bottom line you have to choose what feels right for you, do you want to be open with everyone? or just a certain few? its your decision, and yes sometimes someone turns out to be one of those who can't accept you, you hurt, you grieve over loosing them or what you once had with them and you move on

one of my friends whom i adore to pieces can not accept the real me, i know without a doubt in several comments he's made over the years, so i don't show him that part of me, it hurts sometimes, it is occasionally upsetting, but i enjoy him in my life the way he is now, if i show him that side of me, things will drastically change i've no doubt, so i choose to remain silent and accept what friendship he can give me
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Old 04-27-2010, 11:27 PM
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wanted to let you know that I took in everything you guys said and I decided that at least one of those unaccepting people had to go. it's been a long time coming and it hurts but at the same time I feel freer than I have in a long while. thanks for listening and commenting. you guys are awesome
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