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Old 04-27-2010, 10:06 PM
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Try OK Cupid. It's a dating website but if you can find people in your area who are on there they might be able to point you in the right direction for groups and stuff. Hope that helps.

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Old 04-27-2010, 10:29 PM
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thanks i just set up a account there a few seconds ago, so we will see if we get anywhere with it, i been told in the last few min thats its a great site so i made one up.

thanks for the insight, that is what im doing now, just not getting any dates that way so i waswandering if i was doing something wrong.

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Old 04-28-2010, 01:21 AM
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Try keyword searches on "poly" and "polyamory" on OKC, that will turn up a few people.

http://www.polymatchmaker.com/ is another online place to network, albeit with a much smaller user base than OKC.

There are poly discussion groups in some towns. That said, I've been trying to contact one in Eugene for a couple of weeks without much success...
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Old 05-01-2010, 01:39 PM
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this is mostly just me ranting but feedback is always welcome. I met D through online dating and he turned out great. He asked me when I was going to find a second partner. I'm looking. I really am. I find myself explaining the whole poly thing and only one guy has been willing to continue to talk. So I met up with this guy last night. we'll call him Donkey from now on. I start asking him questions and notice that he hasn't responded in kind. I ask about it. Donkey only asked me out because he thinks I'm damn hot and knows D won't mind if he fucks me. Now I'm ok with a fuck buddy but this pissed me off as all my other FB have at least taken a small interest in me. I tried really hard to explain to him that this isn't just about sex but he wasn't hearing it. I finally just left. I'm frustrated and I just want another nice person.
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Old 05-01-2010, 02:10 PM
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Society is use to having lots of rules of thumb. A common one is that polyamory or bisexual or nonmonogamous means that you will sleep with anyone. I think over time, this perception will change. But I think we have to be aware that we are easily judged this way.
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I'm frustrated and I just want another nice person.

Why not just enjoy the nice person that you have for now and let whatever happens happen? Why are you looking for another partner just because your current "nice partner" said so? If I were you, I'd be glad I found ONE nice person and I'd spend my time and energy connecting with and getting to know the partner that exists rather than spending energy being "frustrated" about some asshole that just wanted free sex. It's about quality, not quantity. A bird in hand is worth two in bush... etc.
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Old 05-01-2010, 02:18 PM
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I'm used to be being wrongly judged as I am also bi. it just pisses me off that people see that instead of what truly is. I think what pissed me off most is that he treated me as an object. I have a name and feelings and thoughts. The quickest way to get me into bed is to explore those things first. I think being more open about my lifestyle choices is helping me see that not everyone is as good as I first think. it just takes some getting used to.
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Old 05-01-2010, 02:28 PM
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Why not just enjoy the nice person that you have for now and let whatever happens happen? Why are you looking for another partner just because your current "nice partner" said so? If I were you, I'd be glad I found ONE nice person and I'd spend my time and energy connecting with and getting to know the partner that exists rather than spending energy being "frustrated" about some asshole that just wanted free sex. It's about quality, not quantity. A bird in hand is worth two in bush... etc.
I am happy with D and he brought it up in a conversation that I started about seeing other people. I feel like I'm putting too much pressure on him to be something he's not. I'm not sure if I can explain it well enough without rambling. You have a very good point though YGirl. I need to work on one relationship at a time. I did really like Donkey until he pulled that. Just have to explore the strange feelings and figure out where to go from there
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Old 05-02-2010, 01:59 AM
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it's going to be hit or miss with any dating site. I lucked out on OKCupid with D but I haven't found anyone else yet. sometimes it takes time. I've found people in my current circle of friends that are poly. apparently we were all afraid to say something.
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Old 05-02-2010, 03:31 AM
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"Burner"

Not familiar with this term. Can I get a definition please?

A Burner is someone who goes to the Burning Man Festival or one of its regional satellites.
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