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Old 08-18-2014, 04:00 AM
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My wife is 4'11", I am 6' and our girlfriend is 5'10". I bought a house with four bedrooms and we each had our own room. We used my room for sex since I had the king sized bed which started out as a waterbed in the old days and finally changed to a regular mattress when waterbed stores no longer existed.

We actually enjoyed sleeping alone. We all had different bed and wake times due to our jobs. I ran a business in Hong Kong so I would get phone calls and faxes (before email days) all night long.

When we stayed at a hotel on vacation, we got two twin beds and my wife slept with her g/f and I slept alone. I do not like sleeping with one person so three is out of the question.
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Old 08-18-2014, 05:01 PM
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We have a king bed and I sleep in the middle, both ladies have their own blankets so they can bundle up and I can stay mostly uncovered in the middle. I hate being covered in sheets because I don't like feeling hot while I sleep. It wasn't tolerable at all when we shared one set of sheets!
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Old 07-06-2015, 09:51 AM
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Three people, two beds (in two bedrooms). I usually sleep alone nowadays because my snoring keeps Snowbunny awake. Which is fine, really. Sleeping alone might have bothered me years ago but it doesn't bother me today. Actually having the bed to myself is rather convenient.
We used to have two bedrooms and that I switched bed each night (when we are all together). Now we instead started on declaring the biggest bedroom to be my room, and the boys switch each night bewtwen the bigger and smaller bedroom. It is rather confusing do it this way, but who knows, I might grow to like it.

Either way, we have never discussed sleeping together all three of us in the same bed - I think mainly because we have sex at night and also sleep naked, it has just never come up as an option for us.
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Old 07-25-2015, 10:45 AM
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I know this is an issue of economy also, but has anyone had any experience with the Utah style "polygamy homes"? That is, seperate appartments that are interconnected. In my country we also have some things called "generational homes" where two or three appartments are interconnected in one house. The more I think of it, the more it sounds like it could be a viable option for the style of polyamory that we are contemplaing. Having seperate appartments, with seperate kitchen and bathroom, and bedrooms far apart, would ensure privacy while at the same time, if for instance there were (lockable) doors betwen the homes there would be the possabilty of going in and out - useful for kids I think - of the different rooms and flat and use them as one, interconnected flat. I know for instance one schoolmat of mine where both her parents and her grandmum had balcony doors that they never locked when home, that led to a shared balcony.

I especially see it as being benificial to any future child(ren) to live like this. The only downside I see with living like this, as opposed to having two seperate flats, is knowing when to be alone versus together (but I am thinking perhaps to set a basic timeline, let's say 7 in the evening, unless otherwise arranged), and of course noise but I guess one has to be quiet with kids arround anyway.

I know some friends of mine that more or less live like this, with (at least) two bathrooms and two kitchens for thre people and a dog. Exept it is an ordinary, big house so they can't close off anything (exept the cellar used to be a seperate unit but they use it as a tv room etc.). Does anyone live more or less like this? Are there things to consider with living arrangements like this? We are comfortable living all three of us for a certain ammount of time (like a holiday) but we also like our one-on-one space for more than the bedroom which is why I thought perhaps this is something to consider. There are not many poly homes in my country but there are some generational homes that could be interesting to loook at.
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Old 07-26-2015, 07:45 PM
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I've never seen a polygamy home in spite of growing up in Utah. Possibly some are still standing in Salt Lake City?
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Old 07-26-2015, 08:17 PM
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Sounds like what I'd call a duplex. Not a bad idea, if you'd like some more division between relationships. Many of the duplexes I've seen are two apartments, each half of a house with private entrances. It allows renters to have half a house and share a yard. But I'm sure you could find a way to rent both sides or buy a preexisting unit (or perhaps convert your house, if you had the money/desire!).

Interesting thought.
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Old 07-26-2015, 09:28 PM
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I've never seen a polygamy home in spite of growing up in Utah. Possibly some are still standing in Salt Lake City?
I guess they are in special part of the state. I just saw a polygamy house featured in Sister wives (the one they sold, it was build for three wives with children). As I understand it, poly homes are not so often on the market because people build them themselves and feel no reason to leave unless they get super many wifes.

I have been looking at "generational homes" online in my city, I found one that looked great but since it is basically a very long house split up it costs a lot of money...but perhaps we could afford it as three people in the future.Or perhaps find ways in which an ordinary house would work to our benifits.
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Old 07-26-2015, 09:34 PM
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Sounds like what I'd call a duplex. Not a bad idea, if you'd like some more division between relationships. Many of the duplexes I've seen are two apartments, each half of a house with private entrances. It allows renters to have half a house and share a yard. But I'm sure you could find a way to rent both sides or buy a preexisting unit (or perhaps convert your house, if you had the money/desire!).

Interesting thought.
Thanks That has been on my mind as well, to buy a property with a renter's unit (it could possably even be tax deductable), exept there had to be almost the same size as the main unit. I have seen some examples of that. Renting could also be an option, although I prefer owning a flat.

Having a yard together sounds lovely, I love greens, my husband was previously a landscape gardener and my boyfriend grew up on a farm. So having some grass and perhaps a vegetable garden would be supernice to share

I am not sure how much money we would have to use, I mean obviously we would have less money than 2 regular couples would, but at the same time we would be 3 people to buy a house instead of two so it could work both ways.
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Old 08-01-2015, 01:34 PM
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We are planning an addition at some point in the future that would function a lot like what you are describing. We are contemplating basically a separate structure, built in an "underground" home structure, connected to main house by tunnel/walkway. This is in anticipation of my father at some point having to move in with us. The addition would have, basically, a small suite for Dude and one for Dad, shared bath and kitchenette and sound-proof entertainment room and would have a separate entrance/alternative exit for the main house. It would also serve as root cellar and storm/tornado shelter as the main house has no basement.
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