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Old 03-08-2014, 04:52 AM
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So happy for you & glad to hear from you!
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Old 03-08-2014, 07:57 PM
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I am very late, but congratulations on the pregnancy! I hope it has been and will continue to be smooth for you. Good luck with the new home. It sounds wonderful, and I am sure you all will be very happy. xo

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Old 03-09-2014, 07:20 AM
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We are hoping for that as well, Ry Thanks.

And thanks all for being happy for us Life sure is great right now and I wouldn't be too displeased if it stays that way
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Old 04-22-2014, 05:03 AM
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A little update after a month has passed again.

The move is getting closer and we start to actually plan for everything thinkable and unthinkable. Or to put it better - we try to Of course there will be some hiccups when we are at it, we don't have a lot of time as well, because a week after our relocation date Lin's parents will visit us in our new home. We couldn't plan for it any other way and thankfully there are no huge repairs and renovations waiting for us, but it will be a close shave.

I am so looking forward to making this house ours. To shape it into something that reflects us and our style and to finally have a place, and a big one at that , that is ours. I realized that being a family, providing for a family, is closely connected to living in our own home for me. I can't wait to renovate and decorate the room for the babies

Speaking of them, they are well. It will be a boy and a girl and we found some names as well, for the present. We aren't a 100% sure yet, but I like them. Since two weeks ago they started kicking and boxing my belly, but as I have one plazenta up front and one in the back, they are well cushioned and I wasn't able to notice their movements any earlier. My mother started knitting jackets and little outfits and socks for them and some friends send the first clothes for the months after birth. Those clothes look sooo tiny, I can't imagine how they will look and fit into them and how to handle such little beings. But I am excited to find out.

The men are in nest-building-mode as well. Even though Sward is fighting with a tight schedule, as always during this time of the year, he already started the first necessary steps and preparations around the house and helps out the old Lady with getting everything in order in time. Lin is planning our most urgent renovations, colour schemes, furniture positions, materials and the organisatory things like telephone, internet and such. What leaves the official stuff to me I can't count on how many documents I have put my signature.

Beside from all the happy news, Lin and I had a fight. Hm, well, not really a fight, Lin had to clarify something. It was an old story that came to hunt him down two weeks ago and he confessed that he lied to me about something about his past all the time we knew each other. It wasn't something important in general, but the lying itself was a bit hard to swallow. As I could totally understand and reconstruct what brought that lie to life initially I was quickly able to let it go, especially as it was connected to his past and had nothing to do with me or any part of his current life. He always felt bad for twisting the facts concerning that point but never found the right time and oppotunity to tell me about it.

Those would be all the news for now, I guess I hope you had a wonderful Easter and wish you well. See you around.
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Old 06-07-2014, 09:03 AM
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Hey there, seems like I tend to check in during the holidays ... I hope everyone is fine.

We sure are We moved into our new home a week ago (officially) and started renovating as much as possible during the week before our deadline. Still a bit of chaos around us, but things getting in the right order quite smoothly by now. The only room that is still not done yet is the study. I hope it will be ready next week, because my stuff is piling up quite a bit. I need my desk ^.^

It's so great to live here ... I love it already and I am looking forward to decorating everything and working on the comfy little home I will definitely need when the twins are with us.

Speaking of which, they are doing great as well. Week of pregnancy 30 by now and my belly is getting huge. According to my perception at least. Not as big, as some seem to expect, but I never have been pregnant, that's why I tend to be overwhelmed by all that change. But mostly I am curious to meet those two little strangers finally.

Sward and Lin are doing as much as they can to work on our new home, to take care of me (us, when taking the two little ones into account) and are as happy as I am that we really pulled this off. Our own home ... there is always some pressure mixed into this concept of thought but we are in for that challange for sure

Lin's parents are with us over Whitsun and to celebrate his birthday on Tuesday. Great that they made it and Lin is so happy to see his parents again, as the last time was over a year ago. Maybe we will manage a meetup with my parents for coffee and cake, we will see.

Wishing you all the best.
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Old 06-07-2014, 02:45 PM
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I read your journal front to back yesterday on recommendation of NYCindie, and I am so glad I did! It was sooo helpful to read about your first early forming days, as my boyfriend is currently in the process of moving in with myself and my husband. To read that someone has gone through the same sort of emotions and issues was great. I could really emphathize with your challenges of trying to conceive too - my exhusband was discovered to be sterile after we attempted baby making for an entire year.

So yeah, thanks for such an open account of a polyfi mono/poly/mono MFM vee!
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Old 06-11-2014, 06:25 AM
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I know how good it feels to read of similar experiences Glad that it was of help for you. I had a look at your story and I feel, that you will need a different arrangement than we found but our story seems similar in other areas of your relationship(s) for sure.

Wishing just for the best to come your way
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