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Old 04-07-2010, 04:55 AM
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Awesome....I like pictures....It makes it so much easier. Anyone with more?
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Old 04-07-2010, 04:59 AM
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Labels labels and more labels... who cares what's a quad and what's not a quad? If there's four people and there's lovin' and there's a major social bond between all four, I'd say that's a quad. Of course my ideal quad would be me, Keira Knightley, Angelina Jolie and Isla Fisher.

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Old 04-07-2010, 05:02 AM
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I would think that a "basic quad" would be one where four people are involved in a relationship with one another in some form. However, we all know that poly doesn't follow rules, and I've heard of all different kinds of quads.

In my quad the men are intimately involved with both women but not each other. The women are intimately involved with both men and each other. I don't identify as bisexual but consider Asha my girlfriend and am physically attracted to her, so go figure.
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Old 04-07-2010, 05:13 AM
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A quad:

Sorta like a dirtbike, but it has 4 wheels.
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Old 04-07-2010, 05:24 AM
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A quad:

Sorta like a dirtbike, but it has 4 wheels.
LOL Typical Sa-scratch-my-bum. Make sure you count 'em twice
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Old 04-07-2010, 05:27 AM
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Sorry to be a smart-ass I 2nd the anti-labels sentiment...

Labels can be useful as quick references, but I hesitate to use them as anything more than that.

The risk is that people get wrapped up in trying to force their relationships to fit into labels they've already chosen, rather than letting relationships develop in their own right.

For example, Hetero Couple A meets Hetero Couple B. There's the right chemistry, and they start dating. They call themselves a quad. Eventually, the romance between Woman A and Man B dies out, but their partners are still wildly in love. Now, did the quad define the relationship, or did the relationship at the time define the quad? Do Man A and Woman B have to break-up because the quad didn't work out? Or do they accept that the relationship dynamic has changed, and drop the label?
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Old 04-07-2010, 05:40 AM
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I don't identify as bisexual but consider Asha my girlfriend and am physically attracted to her, so go figure.
I believe they call that "heteroflexible." No, I'm not a big fan of labels but when they're that witty I make an exception.
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Old 04-07-2010, 08:04 PM
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I believe they call that "heteroflexible." No, I'm not a big fan of labels but when they're that witty I make an exception.
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Old 04-18-2010, 12:24 AM
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I'm with classycaveman. I don't give a rats ass about labels either.

I have been in V's. And close V's that were more like quads. Mostly half a quad or so at most cuz only the women were bi. And then, not all of them at that.

I have been in several combo's like that. But I never have had that many bi men in my life. I know they exist, but I would love a couple of quads with us all bi. That is one of my poly dreams.

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