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Old 07-09-2009, 09:38 PM
StarGazer StarGazer is offline
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Originally Posted by Mark1npt View Post
Wha???? If you are physically healthy, why did you take something for your sex drive? You expected it to change your orientation? Wha??? You sound confused inside.
*sighs* No. I took something that, as a side effect, increased my sex drive. The main goal was to help me build muscle and improve performance in weight training, which it did. And, that side effect didn't change my sexual orientation. I would never take something specifically to raise my sex drive.

Regarding your asexuality....you knew you were asexual before you were sexually abused???? At what age were you aware???? These are some serious issues at work here.
What age do you think I was sexually abused? I'm not talking about it happening at 5 or 10. What- can I not know until I'm 50? I was 15 at the time. Yes, not the oldest of the old- but if a 15 year old told you they were gay, would you tell them they can't know? I knew. And after spending a long time to get past it, seeing several therapists, and having my asexuality remain a constant- I still know what I am.

You seem to misunderstand and misrepresent my position. I don't give a flip about people's orientation.
Asexuality is a sexual orientation, just as valid as hetero/homo/bi/pan/anything else.

If you don't make love then you don't have "lovers", IMO.
I just said I don't have lovers. I have partners.

And, btw....if you have sex....any kind of sex, even if it's meaningless sex to make your sexual partner happy.......then you're not asexual! You may not enjoy it but you're not asexual.
Asexuality is about sexual attraction. If a straight man had sex wiht another man- for whatever reason- that doesn't make him gay. It doesn't even make him bi unless the reason was that he was sexually attracted to this man. It makes him a straight man who had sex with a man for some reason.
Originally Posted by Pearl S. Buck
The lack of emotional security of our American young people is due, I believe, to their isolation from the larger family unit. No two people - no mere father and mother - as I have often said, are enough to provide emotional security for a child. He needs to feel himself one in a world of kinfolk, persons of variety in age and temperament, and yet allied to himself by an indissoluble bond which he cannot break if he could, for nature has welded him into it before he was born.

Last edited by StarGazer; 07-09-2009 at 10:04 PM.
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