Originally Posted by Magdlyn
I do not fear losing him over her. I feel oddly competitive, since she is so much like a 15 years younger version of myself, a stay at home mom of 3, a pagan, a dancer, creative and smart. Of course, I said, she is not my clone. She has qualities that make us different.
miss p gets such different things from her 2 current OSOs, than I can offer. Ginger however, seems to get much of the same things I offer, from his new "love." sigh....
I realize that one of the boons of poly is being able to get different needs met with different people rather than having one person try to be everything. Often then the various partners are different one from another.
But the thing of it is, Ginger loves you. And it seems logical to me that if he were to meet someone that is a lot like you, as apparently Carla is, it would be natural to love her too. How could he not?
-Me: 51, female, relationship anarchist
-The Philosopher: semi-LDR, 44, male - my intellectual twin; relationship anarchist.
-Intellectual Elf, 27, female, the Philosopher's LDR
-Polkadot, 36, dating the Philosopher
-Wiseman, 68, male, solo-poly, my budding LDR